The Virtue of Charm
· Charm pays attention. Learn to focus on the other person you are talking to. Treating people with respect is the backbeat of male charm. Do people feel that everything that really matters is happening right here and right now?
· Charm is mischievous. Charm is a little playful, polishes up common days. Shift your routines around, do ta-dahs for your loved ones.
· Charm smiles- sort of. Nothing cheesey here. Real men are quick to laughter. “Eye smilers”, eyes twinkle ready for the game, glint in eye.
· Charm thinks you are great. The man that leaves his dinner guests thinking he is the greatest will always be lonely. But the man that leaves his dinner guests feeling they are the greatest will never be lonely.
F. Scott Fitzgerald said, “the greatest gift you can give anyone is to see them exactly as they wish to be seen.
Charm spotlights our gifts and is uninterested in our limitations.
· Charm appreciates. Be grateful for even small acknowledgments. Write letters. The moment of opening a letter is truly magic.
· Charm remembers. It is not that we forget what folks tell us, but that we never actually bother to download the info in the first place.
· Charm is contrarian. Don’t be afraid to not follow the “sheep”. A charming man says what he thinks, straight up.
· Charm sings. Perhaps the most common male obstacle to charm is a little grouch that lives inside lots of men’s head. This grouch is suspicious of enthusiasm, of exuberance.
· Charm is on a mission. Most of the charming men are dashing, with a trace of the military officer about them.
· Charm loves women. A charming man makes women of all ages feel like beautiful young things. A woman should feel in the back of her mind that you’ve noticed her- as a sexual creature- and that her allures have you slightly pixilated. This must be conveyed with subtlety, grace, gentlemanly respect. But make no mistake, the most charming thing a man can be by a woman is dazzled.
Men’s Health magazine 2001