Valentine’s Day: A New Perspective
By Elaine Seiler
Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, the day we celebrate our caring and love for one another, for our friends, family and beloveds. Thousands of roses will be gifted, boxes of chocolates, elaborate gifts and cards conveying loving and caring sentiments exchanged.
On the surface such gift giving seems sweet, and well intentioned, but is there more to this holiday? What is the bigger picture or deeper understanding when one looks with an energetic eye at Valentine’s Day? What do we learn about our culture and ourselves when we look from a multi-dimensional perspective?
In the third dimension we function primarily from our individual selves. We reach out as personalities and want acknowledgement of our individuality. On Valentine’s Day we seek and expect our loved ones to validate us with expressions of caring. Loving ourselves is not enough; we need a physical, tangible reflection of our love-ability from others.
This often leads to disappointment and frustration in a physical world, when we can’t know one another as consciously as in the energetic realms. It is up to you to convince me that you love me and that I am lovable. And that is a very tall order.
That is what causes disappointment on Valentine’s Day. The pressure of expectation becomes enormous because one individual cannot satisfy another’s expectation. Cards give way to boxes of chocolates which give way to more and more expensive physical gifts. The items given must get bigger and better to be valuable and to convince us that we are lovable.
What started out as tokens of love, have become the heavy messages - I don’t love you unless I buy you X, or I don’t love you unless I take you out and wine and dine you in an over-the-top way.
When we look at Valentine’s Day from the energetic or multi-dimensional perspective, we must first become aware that the vibrations on the planet are speeding up. As they become faster, we match our vibrations to the faster frequencies in and around us and we begin to change and evolve.
We are in a bridge or transition state right now in which we are becoming more and more energetic, but are still primarily physical beings. In this state there is more awareness that we are not just individuals. This is the beginning of our understanding that we are part of the collective in a way that fully three-dimensional individuals are not. We understand mutuality, resonance and synchronicity in a deeper way. We begin to experience one another more intuitively and instinctively than ever before. This instantaneous ‘knowing’ of ‘the other’ leads to a greater sense of being part of the collective and a more complete feeling of self-love. As this occurs, I believe we will see a shift in our rituals. We will begin to have less and less need for Valentine’s Day. The consumerism of this holiday will diminish and the romanticized notice of the other will fall away as a charming, but antiquated recognition of the time when individuals felt compelled to state their love for one another.
As we change, we will become more and more able to accept and love ourselves. Every day will be Valentine’s Day as we live in a state of loving Valentine-spirit. There will be less and less need for the outward expressions of caring. Caring will be the way. Good and loving feelings will be like breathing...we don’t celebrate breathing, we just breathe. We won’t need to celebrate love; we will be love.
In the meantime, Happy Valentine's Day!
About the Author:
Author and energetics expert Elaine Seiler (SAY Sigh-ler) is at the forefront of explaining humanity's "energetic evolution" and how we can cope and thrive in the face of rapid change. Elaine is a life and career coach, researcher, mother and grandmother. In 1992, after 20 years of work as a career consultant and life coach, she discovered energetics, the study and use of multi-dimensional energies and their interplay with life on earth. She is the author of Multi-Dimensional You: Exploring Energetic Evolution and Your Multi-Dimensional Workbook: Exercises for Energetic Awakening. Learn more at and Contact Elaine at .