SMILE
UNIVERSAL LANGUAGE
A smile, like a picture, is a universal language that transcends not only every cultural boundary but also every conceptual boundary. No matter what village or town or city you go to, a smile means the same thing regardless of your age, culture, ethnicity, financial status, faith, or nationality. A smile is a smile is a smile, and a smile by any other name looks the same. It comes from the heart; thus, there are no misinterpretations. Innately, we know that we are all in this together and by smiling, we can unleash powerful forces from within.
For many years, I traveled the world as a photographer, journalist, painter, and musician, and I have yet to be untouched by the gracious, loving, heartwarming smiles offered to me in every country of the world I’ve been to, be it the Canary Islands, Germany, France, England, Central America, South America, Mexico, the United States, and Canada. Wherever you travel in the world, a smile is the currency that will buy you whatever you need. When you smile, it circles the world. So many languages are in the world, and a smile speaks them all!
In the field of research and clinical data related to the heart as an organ of perception and activity, the data shows that the heart rather than the brain is the main organ in the body for organizing and distributing information. Research proves that smiling could be the MOST powerful thing you can do. And throughout this research, you can see no other thing in the world can cost so little but mean so much for so many, including you!
“Smiles are contagious, be a carrier!”
A smile is the breath of the soul and the spirit revealed, painted upon the face for all to see, transcending space and time. A smile has a very rich and deeply empowering value that speaks the language of eternity and unity. A smile will enhance your life, body, mind, and spirit and that of all those around you. You can inspire everyone with a smile. It is truly the spirit of GOD in action, the spirit of your own soul saying, “Give to yourself and give to others, and you will immediately receive in turn the gratitude from your heart and from those around you.”
“A good world starts with nothing less than a smile!”
A world filled with happiness, goodness, joy, and uplifting thoughts and feelings begins with a smile. You know the value of a smile. How many things, other than breathing, are so common to each person’s needs and desires? What other thing than breathing and drinking water can equate the power of a smile? A smile is free! You can give a smile to yourself and you can give it to others for free.
“A smile is a powerful weapon. You can even break ice with it.”
In negotiating, a smile is the quickest way to an agreement. A frown equals no, and a smile equals YES! A great way to bypass peace negotiations, mediation, or conflict resolution is simply with an authentic smile—the Duchenne smile, as it is called (more on
this later)—smiling with your lips, with your eyes, and with your heart—and meaning it. Despite linguistic and nationalistic differences, the smile gets through; it speaks to the heart rather than the mind. A frown says no, a smile says, “Yes, of course!”
Some people show an even more authentic smile and acceptance and love by actually weeping while smiling—smiling, weeping for joy, or crying for joy, but still smiling and mixing the two, as it is something that touches their inner feelings and hence, causes them to weep with joy.
“A smile of encouragement at the right moment may act like sunlight on
a closed-up flower; it may be the turning point for a struggling life.”
Smiling is a simple, effective, and universal way to communicate within as well as to those you meet in life. Communicate your joy, your happiness, your abundance, your generosity, and your appreciation for life, all of which will return and affect you beneficially on all levels—mental, emotional, and physical, and a smile will take you the extra mile.
“What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. They are trifles,
to be sure; but scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.”
Some people have lost their smile. Share yours with them. Since a smile costs nothing but brings such great returns, isn’t it worth it? Smile. Send out a good vibe and this will bounce back on you. Those who spread joy, happiness, and smiling cannot help but reap the rewards of smiling—which are happiness and joy coming back from others to you.
A smile enriches those who receive without making those poorer who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. No one is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and no one is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it. Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as no one needs a smile so much as he who has nothing left to give.
The smile signals your own heart and mind that everything is okay, that you can relax and create a better world, from right inside you, from your heart and on your face. It shouts to the world that your intentions are wholesome, good, and trustworthy.
“ A SMILE is the levity and flying upward to Heaven balanced
by the gravity and the grounding and the roots of the earth.”
Perhaps you recall a time in your life when a smile and a kind word meant the world to you and how very deeply it brought you something you wanted and needed. Smile at your heart if it is anxious. Use this smile like you would a wholesome natural medicine, for indeed, laughter is the best medicine.
PUT ON A HAPPY FACE!
“A smile is the light in the window of the soul…
indicating that the heart is at home.”
Nineteenth century scientists were obsessed with the human head and face. They measured skulls and tried to correlate brain size with ability. Phrenologists tried to predict human characteristics from the shapes of skulls. Criminologists tried to define the human face.
French neurologist Guillaume Duchenne mapped one hundred facial muscles in 1862. His work gave him insight into smiling. He pointed out that false or even half-hearted smiles involve only muscles of the mouth, but the "sweet emotions of the soul" activate the pars lateralis muscles around the eyes.
In other words, authentic smiles activate muscles around the eyes, an action that crinkles the skin around the eyes. Since then, physiologists have talked about the Duchenne marker in a smile—the crinkling of your crow’s feet, a slight droop of your eyelids, along with a lift of your cheeks and corners of your mouth. You know the sign. You recognize true delight in a friend's face.
“The act of smiling is a gift that gives a little piece of joy
and sunshine to brighten another’s day.”
Psychologist Paul Ekman has gone back to the smile and found something very important. It can work in reverse. Dr. Ekman studied facial structure and smiling in both women and men and found that producing this Duchenne smile can bring about a sense of euphoria, happiness, joy, and genuine well being. The Duchenne smile, it seems, is accompanied by increased activity in the left prefrontal cortex, known to be the seat of positive emotions, your pleasure center. What Ekman found is that you can activate your pleasure center by putting on a Duchenne smile.
Yes, you can literally make yourself happy by smiling!
We have been conditioned in our society to believe that a smile that does not come as an authentic Duchenne smile is absolutely cold and fake, but what we are finding is that we have a process of repeating and recreating a state of happiness. So, when you have a formula, it is important to remember to repeat what works.
However, only spontaneity creates the maximum result. A spontaneous smile activates even more reactions in your pleasure center than does a voluntary smile. So, you cannot fake happiness, but you can create it within yourself. And when you do, you deeply touch everyone around you.
You can fake a smile and create happiness within yourself. It almost seems like this is contradictory. Of course, in life there are many contradictory things where both are true, never either or. You personally can use what might be considered a fake smile even if you are not happy, and you can actually activate the hormones and neurotransmitters to make yourself feel happy.
This is remarkable research. The physiology of smiling creates a biochemical result. This is why it is best to "fake it till you make it" and act happy even if it feels unnatural, and no matter what anybody thinks, because as you start acting like you are really smiling and really happy, you actually feel more like you are! It is somewhat like an actor taking on a role and totally giving oneself to the character, finally being the character. And of course, this affects us whether we are optimistic or pessimistic in our whole outlook on life, and thus, it affects our whole biochemistry.
In the past decades, extensive research was done on having research subjects come in with no training and put on different facial expressions, one of which was smiling. It was found that smiling definitely increased the person’s sense of well-being, health, and happiness by simply using the facial muscles differently.
So, what do you do when you don’t feel like smiling and you don’t even feel like faking it? Well, you can be grateful that you are not being forced to smile and that may make you smile. Remember, it is neither mandatory to smile nor to be happy!
The research behind this is definite and precise. Many motivational and inspirational teachers have taught this. Science says you can actually use your physiology—in this case, smiling—to create a biochemical response, activating neuro-hormones, endorphins, and nitric oxide to make you feel great.
Success leaves clues. Think about it. What was the state you were in when you felt happy? Well, go back to that state rather than trying to find an esoteric mental way to be happy. Smile until you're happy instead of going, "I wish I was happy so I could smile."
“Always remember to be happy because
you never know who’s falling in love with your smile.”
This may go against some of the research I talk about in which there are authentic smiles and inauthentic smiles, but we can also realize there is an authentic try at being happy, and an authentic try at smiling.
So, maybe if you stood in front of the mirror and learned how to put on a Duchenne smile, it might develop those muscles around the eyes and the brain-mind connection so that the heart can take over again, and you can feel the joy, happiness, and love—just from smiling—and not waiting for somebody else to change your life, not waiting for a significant other to come into your life to allow you to be happy, or to have to eat chocolate to be happy.
You can SMILE and be happy!
“Smiles are the soul’s kisses.”
Minna Thomas Antrim
A smile comes from a much deeper place, and it was actually planted inside of you by that which created you and everything else in your universe. Maybe it is worth waiting for a smile to come spontaneously—but who is to say that your desire to create the smile and not wait for it is not part of the spontaneous universe you live in?
So whether you spontaneously pop up a smile on your face, or whether you follow some of the protocol in this book:
SMILE FOR YOUR HEALTH!
SMILE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS AND YOUR JOY!
SMILE FOR YOUR ABUNDANCE!
SMILE FOR THE FACT THAT NOBODY IS TELLING YOU THAT YOU HAVE TO SMILE!
Chapter 3
COME OUT SMILING
After birth, we can see for ourselves that babies sometimes smile, especially when face to face with a smiling mom or dad. When a baby returns that smile, it is a wonderful demonstration of what babies can see and feel. But, “psychologists have had their doubts about these smiles for the last hundred years;” that is the perspective of an unusual psychologist, David B. Chamberlain, Ph.D., who concentrates on studies of baby behavior in the earliest phase of their development--from conception to birth.
During the 20th century, Chamberlain says, theories about babies smiling after birth depended heavily on how much brain the babies had and when certain parts of the brain were definitely connected. From that viewpoint, newborn babies were judged to have insufficient brainpower for them to feel pain, have emotions, remember anything, or have authentic smiles. The first smiles after birth, therefore, were merely “reflexive” and void of personal meaning. (This is what they also said about baby cries, and baby pain.) Eventually, researchers agreed that true “social” smiling in mutual face-to-face interactions, like those of babies and parents, could be expected around six weeks after birth. “I was dubious about this claim”, Chamberlain confesses, “because at just ten days after birth, I had a warm, smiling dialog with my first son that ended in a responsive smile accompanied by a breath-catching gasp and small explosive sound that revealed both rapt attention and an effort to respond verbally.”
This theory about smiling in six weeks after birth began to erode when scientists seriously measured the behavior of babies born prematurely. These babies are ten to twelve weeks younger than full 40-week newborns. What these explorers discovered, says Chamberlain, was that the first smiles were seen while premature babies were dreaming. Being out of the womb, it was easy to observe the rapid eye movements (REMs) which mark dreaming in sleep. They also found that premature babies were really big dreamers. The density of smiling for them was 34 smiles per 100 minutes of REM time versus 8.8 smiles per 100 minutes of REM time for full-term newborns. Looking at the larger picture, researchers found that REM states (dreaming) fall progressively through our life span from 8 hours in newborns to less than one hour in old age.