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Cellular Responsibility: Getting Your Power Back
by
Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D.
He not busy being born is dying.
Bob Dylan
Remember how long the days seemed when you were a kid? It took forever to get from one part of the week to the next, and don’t even mention a month … that was like a whole year … Why was it so different then?
Tolle and the Now
Quite simple really, and I’ve talked about this in the past in other articles: my May 2008 newsletter – Where Are You Now?, or an earlier article: Living in the Now: Use it to Enrich Your Life. What is simple about the reason why our days no longer last as long as they did when we were kids is because we progressively live less and less time in the present moment. When we were kids and we were building a sand castle, all our attention was on that activity. When we were devouring a piece of birthday cake, all our attention was on that activity.
Now we are splintered into many pieces, and while we do a present-time activity, we are also in different places of the past or future in our mind, hence the present moment is robbed of its fullest potential, we are torn into different directions, and when we have finished with the present-time activity, we often have a difficult time remembering much about it, because so little of our present self was present!
Remember that now is all you have … your true life is not in your past, and it is not in your future … it is only and ever now, in the present moment. Nevertheless, although our rational mind recognizes the inherent truth in this, it does present a number of challenges to the psyche. How can we get ourselves into present time and stay there?
Stimuli in Your Life Capture Your Power
What stimuli in your life capture your power so that it goes to places and times other than where you are now? Here are just a few examples:
- Music: imagine you are driving in the car, enjoying the gorgeous day, and a song comes on that is full of bitter-sweet nostalgia for you. It transports you into the glory and the pain of a past relationship. Suddenly you are no longer enjoying the gorgeous day; on the contrary, you are re-living parts of the magnificence of that past relationship, and then you are swept up into the pain of other pieces of it. By the time you reach your destination, you not only no longer feel as wonderful as you did when you began your drive, but you no longer remember the actual drive … all because a song was played on the radio
- Smells, perfumes, aromas: imagine you are being introduced to a stranger at a cocktail party. Imagine you are a woman, and the stranger is a man, and as you come in a bit closer to say hello, or as you touch cheeks, as we do in so many countries, you get a whiff of his cologne. It is your father’s cologne. Immediately, in some fashion, you either associate the stranger with your father, or you go into a memory of the past, perhaps of you sitting in your parents’ bedroom, chatting with your father as he splashed on the cologne, and that memory takes you to another moment with your father when he told you he was leaving your mother and you because he had met another woman… Now the cocktail party is tinged with that memory, the feelings it evoked, and after you get home, you may find you scarcely remember any of the conversations you had while you were there … all because of a cologne.
- Movies with specific scenes: these can have a similar effect on you as the above, and you may find that you frequently are attracted to movies that cause you to relive the emotions of certain parts of your life
Essentially both terms refer to that part of us that likes to wallow in our pain. What, you say? Why on earth would I want to wallow in something painful? The answer becomes obvious. Because it is a place you know. Because you feel at home there. In other words, we have been there so often before, in this place of pain, that when faced with a choice of doing something new and unknown, or wallowing, it is much easier to fall back to the well-trodden path and wallow. We don’t really even think about it. We just go there, because it is familiar. And then we feel comfort in the familiarity of the pain. Recognize this? Have you been there? And are you tempted right now, despite what you have read to this point, to go back to your painful thoughts? Does that just feel so much easier? (quoted almost verbatim from Entering the Now Moment By Leaving Unawareness Behind).
In a sense, that is what we do when we hear the song on the radio, when we catch a tantalizing whiff of the familiar cologne, or when we see certain scenes of some movies. And we go to that place of pain unconsciously because we are not aware of ourselves. Or we may be aware enough to realize what is going on, but we have not yet decided to take on our own responsibility for ourselves. (see also Claiming Responsibility For the Selfor these articles about responsibility).
Molecular & Cellular Biology … Genes & DNA
So now I want to really throw an unexpected thought out there at you…if, as I have written in past articles, our thoughts do indeed influence our body, our cells, our genes, our very DNA (see also Create a New Life: One Intention at a Time or Thoughts Create Molecules, or my March 2008 newsletter: How Your Thoughts Change Your Body), then it stands to reason that by continually re-visiting the past and re-living past pain, we are negatively influencing the very cells of our body. Read some of the work by cellular and molecular biologists Candace Pert and Bruce Lipton, read what scientific researcher Masaru Emoto has to say, look into the quantum research done by endocrinologist Deepak Chopra, look into psychoneuroimmunology (PNI) to better understand the body-mind connection,but whatever you do, don’t rest back on your chair, make a puzzled face, and say I don’t believe this nonsense. You can’t say that until you’ve read the research.
For those of you who still find it hard to believe that thoughts could affect your body … here are some more common and everyday physiological examples:
- Some individuals are capable of reaching orgasm simply by their thoughts
- Some individuals are able to provoke tears simply by Imagining something and crying because of it
- Biofeedback has taught us that we can measurably alter our heartbeat, our tension and stress
Cellular responsibility?
Part of Your Energy Is In Your Past
How much of you is in “your story” and would be lost if you let it go? So then you might have to work on a whole new you … depending on how you think about that, it is actually quite exciting … you would no longer be burdened by that old, sad awful story you’ve been dragging around with you.
You do see thatbecause of your story, part of your energy, part of your power is in your past, right? If you identify with your story, if that is how you define yourself, then a portion of your power is there and not here.
Getting Your Fragments Into Present Time
Getting the fragments of yourself into present time (Gary Zukav, author of The Seat of the Soul calls it a splintered personality), is a necessary part of the process of taking cellular responsibility for yourself. So there’s bit of you in 1976, and another bit in 1960, and another bunch of bits in the early 80’s and so on depending on when, in your history, things happened to you that continue to maintain a part or parts of you, especially emotionally, there, at that moment in time. The anchor that holds you there is the negative emotion that you continue to feel every time that you remember the painful event. That means there are only a few bits of you in 2008 … until you leave those past bits - that hold so much of your power – behind, you will not be able to get your power back, and you will not be able to take cellular responsibility for yourself.
Unfinished Business
You know that you have unfinished business with parents, with your spouse or your partner, your kids, your siblings, your friends, your bosses, your teachers, and so on, if you continue to have negative emotions of any kind when you think about them or past events involving them. Those negative emotions are the ones that can adversely influence your body, your cells, and it is precisely those negative emotions that are at the bottom of what it is you need to begin to take responsibility for, if you want to take cellular responsibility for yourself. Finishing up that unfinished business will automatically mean that you will spend a much greater amount of time in the present instead of in the past, and that you will spend far less time focusing on negative emotions from events that took place in the past.
The Importance of Forgiving & the Law of Attraction
Once you can forgive, the unfinished business from the past transforms into a mere memory that no longer carries any negative connotations to pull your power away from the present. It is at this point that you can begin to take cellular responsibility for yourself, i.e. you will no longer be harming your body in all senses of the word by keeping that negative power in the past.
Caroline Myss (from whose work I have borrowed the term cellular responsibility) pointed out almost a decade ago in 1999 in The Science of Medical Intuition, together with Dr. Norman Shealy, that it is also at this point that you can begin to create and manifest. In other words, no matter how much visualization and affirmation you are doing, those of you who have been vicariously reading everything you can get your hands on about the Law of Attraction or The Secret, you will not be able to create, until you pull your power into the present. Forgiving those who have
trespassed you is one of the biggest steps towards that goal.
Quotes about forgiving by Caroline Myss:
- By far the strongest poison to the human spirit is the inability to forgive oneself or another person. It disables a person's emotional resources. The challenge is to refine our capacity to love others as well as ourselves and to develop the power of forgiveness.
- Forgiveness is no longer an option but a necessity for healing.
- One of the greatest struggles of the healing process is to forgive both yourself and others and to stop expending valuable energy on the past hurts.
- In order to heal oneself, we must learn how to forgive.
- Forgive and call back the energy wasted on past events.
- The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that's why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they've really done is they've shifted their relationship with time.
Doing some of what follows will lead you down the road to cellular responsibility where you will be able to begin to recover your power.
- Become aware of yourself, your reactions to stimuli, your need to go into the pain body
- Decide you will be responsible for yourself in all senses of the word
- Make better choices because now you are aware and have decided to become responsible
- Look at your unfinished business
- Ask yourself if there are any good reasons to be feeling guilty … what will get better by feeling guilty?
- Rather than beating yourself up about what you did, why not learn from it, vow to never do it again, and move on. If not, more of your power stays there
- If you are ashamed of something about yourself, ask yourself if you would like to get rid of feeling like that?
- Shame tends to involve lack of self esteem
- Shame is often the root cause of obsessive thinking b/c it allows you to focus on another person as the solution to your problems
- Does reliving the past help make anything better?
- Can I recognize that continuing to hurt about past events won’t solve a problem?
- Forgive
- Whom do you need to forgive?
- Why are you unwilling to forgive?
- Recognize that not forgiving holds parts of you in the past
- Understand that forgiving does not mean you condone what was done, nor does it mean you now need to have a wonderful relationship with that person … you may need to move on, but by forgiving, the hold that the event had over you, will be gone.
- Forgiving also does not mean forgetting – but it does mean, removing the charge from the memory
- Gratitude – this is a really big one: read more in my January 2008 Newsletter: Love and Gratitude are on Your Road to Freedom as well as the December 2006 Newsletter: Gratitude, Choice, and the “Why Did This Happen To Me?” Syndrome
- Mindfulness (see in particular Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn) - this is strongly connected to gratitude because gratitude can be your first step in learning how to be mindful; by being grateful for something right now, you automatically return to the now, and by learning to be mindful, you will be able to remain in the now.
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In addition to her private practice – see above photo - (English, Spanish, and German), incorporating both integral coaching, and dream analysis in individual therapy (private sessions) and relationship coaching, as well as cutting-edge psycho-energetics (meridian energy therapies), Dr. Gabriella Kortsch (Ph.D., CHT) has also been trained as a clinical hypnotherapist, and offers diverse workshops in the field of personal development and dream groups. Dr. Kortsch also offers phone consultations (domestic and international) to clients of more than twenty nationalities. A professional speaker, she is available to speak on a variety of related topics both publicly and privately for corporations, organizations, clubs, hospitals, and groups. For further information please contact her Marbella office by telephone +34 952 929 071, email, or see her website .