Boys Are Just After One Thing in a Relationship

Do you agree?

Safe Behaviours – Read the following behaviours and ask the students to stand in each corner of the room and discuss their answers:

Strongly Agree ------Strongly Disagree

Boys are just after one thing in a relationship

If you are in a monogamous relationship then you are safe from STI’s

Girls hold more responsibility for contraception than boys

Girls are more likely to talk about their feelings than boys

It’s easy to pick lesbians/gay men by the way they dress

Boys are more confident than girls

It’s easier for a boy to ask a girl out than it is for a girl to ask a boy out

Girls are more emotional than boys

Women do not enjoy sex as much as men

Only boys masturbate

It’s easy to pick a girl who sleeps around from her appearance

Men are naturally more aggressive than women

Boys do not care about their appearance

All a gay man needs is a good women

Girls suffer more when a relationship breaks up

Young people should delay having sex until they are older

You can tell by the look of a person whether they have an STI or not

Communication is the most important thing in a relationship

In a relationship it’s a boy who normally decides whether and how sexual activity will occur

There are probably no students in this class who are attracted to members of the same sex

People should always practice safe sex, even when they are in a stable relationship

Knowing your Rights and Responsibilities

In the table below list some rights and responsibilities you have if you are in a sexual relationship with someone:

Your Rights / Your Responsibilities

What advice would you give to a friend who is in a relationship with a partner who does not follow any or all of the above rights and responsibilities?

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Is it OK to be in love with someone at your age? Discuss your answer:

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In your opinion, what are the advantages and disadvantages of including sexual intercourse in relationships at your age?

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What would you do in the following situations? Explain your answers:

-Your best friend is two-timing. Both of the people concerned are very nice, but neither know what’s going on.

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-It’s Year 12, and you have had a crush on Kylie since the beginning of Year 8. You are not aware that she even knows you until one day they ask you out.

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-You and Mark are in Year 9 and have been going out for 6 months. Mark’s friends keep pressuring him to go all the way with you. As a result, he has been giving you a hard time, saying that you would have sex with him if you really liked him.

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Rights in a Relationship

From the following list, choose the rights you would like to have in a romantic relationship. Add 3 other rights to the list that you feel may have been missed:

-To be respected

-To have time for friends and others

-To say no

-To be nervous

-To feel loved

-To change my mind

-To be listened to

-To make mistakes

-To have an opinion

-To show my feelings

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Gender and Friendship

Rank the following qualities in order for the importance in a friend or with a person whom you are in a relationship with. Add two other qualities:

Qualities / Friendship / Relationship
Honest
Trustworthy
Good Looking
Caring
Intelligent
Fit
Tall
Slim
Outgoing
Confident

Sexual Relationships

What do you think are the pros and cons of a sexual relationship?

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What would you do if you/ your partner became pregnant? What are your responsibilities?

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Talk about the pressures relating to having sexual intercourse. Identify situations where these pressures could be overwhelming, eg: At a party:

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In a group, consider strategies to cope with each situation you identified:

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Making decisions about Sex

Sooner or later everyone is faced with the decision off whether to have sex. For some the decision is easy and others are very unsure. Whatever you decide it will have an influence on your future relationships.

Discuss the following questions:

-Does a sexual relationship have to include sexual intercourse?

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-Does sex make a relationship better?

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-Does loving someone mean you should have sexual intercourse

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-When is the right time to start having sexual intercourse?

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Consider the following scenario:

Sophie and Danny have been going out for 3 months. They are spending more and more time alone together. Each of them has been wondering about whether or not they want to have sex, but they have not talked to each other about their concerns.

-What might be some of the reasons that Sophie may have for wanting to have sexual intercourse?

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-What might be some of the reasons why Sophie doesn’t want to have sexual intercourse?

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-What might be some of the reasons why Danny may want to have sexual intercourse?

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-Why may Danny not want to have sexual intercourse?

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Sexual Preference

Sexuality can be very confusing, especially during adolescence. Sexual preference refers to whether you prefer males or females as sexual partners. Sexual partners can be grouped in the following ways:

-Heterosexuals: have a sexual preference for the opposite sex

-Homosexuals: have a sexual preference for the same sex

-Bisexuals: are attracted to both sexes

-Transsexuals: are people of one sex who behave and present themselves as the opposite sex

Having strong feelings for, and showing affection to, people of the same sex does not necessarily mean that you have sexual feelings for them.

Homophobia is when a person feels uncomfortable around, and is not tolerant of, people who are not heterosexual. You may have your own ideas about sexuality, but it is important not to discriminate against people with sexual preferences different from your own. Everyone deserves the same respect that you would expect to receive.

Develop a list of conflicting pressures felt by young people over their developing sexuality:

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Are there differences in what it means to be a homosexual male or female? Are they treated differently? Discuss:

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Homophobia and a lack of tolerance are quite common amoung adolescents, especially boys. Discuss why you believe this is so:

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Sexual Anatomy

Match the following terms with the correct definition

Urethra / Testicle / Ovary / Vagina
Vas Deferens / Penis / Ovum
Seminal Vesicle / Scrotum / Fallopian Tube
Prostate / Uterus / Cervix
Word / Definition
This is where sperm is mixed with semen
This is the lower portion of the uterus which joins with the upper part of the vagina
This is an elastic muscular canal that joins the outer sexual organs with the uterus
These are two thin tubes which carry sperm from the testicles to the seminal vesicles
Once a month, an ovum will travel along one of these from the ovary to the uterus
This is made of spongy tissue, and when a man becomes excited it grows in size and stiffens
This is thin, loose skin covering the testicles
This is also known as the womb, where a fertilised egg will become a foetus
This is where eggs develop. Eggs are released from here and travel down the fallopian tubes, into the uterus
Both semen and urine are released from the body through this tube
This is the organ which produces sperm, as well as the male sex hormone, testosterone
Also known as an egg it is a reproductive cell which will develop into a foetus if it is fertilised by sperm
Some of the fluid in semen is produced here

Exploring Risks

Sex is not legal in Victoria until 16 years of age between consenting adults. Having sex before this age carries the risk of prosecution under the law, especially if one of the people involved is an adult. Sex between an adult and a person under 16 is illegal and carries strong penalties. Consider the following table:

Exploring risks associated with sexual behaviour
Negative vs Positive risk / The excitement of sex (positive risk) may mean the risks of infection, abuse, or an unwanted pregnancy are not considered (negative risk)
Setting or Circumstances / If you are in an isolated setting you may be more likely to take risks when it comes to sexual behaviour. If you are at a party where drugs and alcohol are available you may also increase your level of risk
Factors influencing risk-taking / Drugs and alcohol can reduce inhibition and lead to sexual activity for which you are not prepared. Peer pressure can also be an influence on decisions about sexual behaviour. Your family’s value system will be a factor that influences your risk taking
Outcomes of risk behaviour / Infection with a sexually transmitted disease, an inappropriate or abusive relationship or unwanted pregnancy are all possible outcomes of taking sexual risks you are not prepared for. For some people, an enormous sense of guilt can follow sex they were not prepared for

A boyfriend and girlfriend accept the offer of alcohol from an older brother. Describe how they are increasing their risk of a negative outcome:

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A young woman decides to catch a train alone, late at night. Describe how she is increasing her risk of a negative outcome:

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Debate: ‘Risks have more negative than positive outcomes’

What teenagers should know to avoidsexually transmitted infections?

For the following statements determine whether they are true or false. Discuss the reasons for your decision:

1. You’ll always know if you have a sexually transmitted infection

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1. Some sexually transmitted infections can lead to infertility, that is, females not being able to bear children and males not being able to father children

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1. Taking the contraceptive pill will prevent a female from catching a sexually transmitted infection

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1. You will be able to tell if your sexual partner has a sexually transmitted infection

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1. You have to be 18 in order to obtain medical advice without the knowledge of parents or carers

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1. Most sexually transmitted infections can be treated and cured

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1. The only place a person can go to get expert advice about sexual health is their family doctor

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1. Condoms are 100% effective in preventing the spread of sexually transmitted infections

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1. In some cases, sexually transmitted infections can result in death

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1. Lesbians don’t need to worry about contracting sexually transmitted infections

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Sexually Transmitted Infections

Chlamydia

Description:______

Transmission:______

Symptoms:______

Treatment:______

Genital Herpes

Description:______

Transmission:______

Symptoms:______

Treatment:______

Genital Warts

Description:______

Transmission:______

Symptoms:______

Treatment:______

AIDS

Description:______

Transmission:______

Symptoms:______

Treatment:______

Contraception

Describe each of the following forms of contraception, how they are used and how effective they are:

Male Condom

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Female Condom

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Contraceptive Pill

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The Diaphragm

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The Emergency Pill

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Inter-uterine device (IUD)

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Spermicides

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Withdrawal Method

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Sterilisation

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Implanon

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Dams

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Contraception

Which contraception is most suitable for teenagers who decide to be sexually active?

What teenagers should know about avoiding unwanted pregnancy?

For the following statements determine whether they are true or false. Discuss the reasons for your decision:

1. Taking the pill will stop a female from catching any sexually transmitted infections

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1. Taking a bath after having sex will prevent pregnancy

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1. It is possible to get pregnant when having sex for the first time

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1. Pregnancy is only possible if intercourse occurs

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1. Sperm can only last inside a females body for several hours

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1. To help prevent pregnancy, a morning after contraceptive pill can be taken up to a week after having unprotected sex

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1. Pregnancy is not possible unless an ovum is fertilised by a sperm

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1. Crocodile dung has been used in ancient societies to prevent pregnancy

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1. The contraceptive pill may not be effective if the female experiences vomiting or diarrhoea

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1. The Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) can only be spread through sexual contact

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Looking at Social Marketing Campaign Ads

Look at the given advertisement form a social marketing campaign and answer the following questions about your advertisement:

Who is the target audience? ______

How might another group respond to the same message? Eg parents, opposite sex etc______

What seems more important in this ad – providing factual information or changing attitudes? Explain ______

What is the mood of this ad? Eg positive, upbeat, serious etc______

If there are visual images, what kind of images does the ad represent? Are they effective? Explain.______

Comment on the messages presented. Is it effective and do you think these would work for people in your school?______