God’s Wordon:Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage

  1. The Lord God Almighty Says:
  1. We CAN understand the Scriptures and we’re commanded to handle them accurately.
  2. In the End we will be judged according to the Word and we are told that we can have a life without fear or anxiety. The rules are not arbitrary or impossible to understand / apply.
  3. Everything God gives us to know and do is for our own betterment.
  4. Remember that we’re responsible for what we do, teach and passively allow perpetuating!
  5. John 8:32 And you shall know the Truth, and the Truth shall make you free."
  6. John 17:17 Sanctify them by Your Truth. Your ______is Truth.
  7. Ephesians 3:4 by which, when you read, you may understand my knowledge in the mystery of Christ)
  8. ______Be diligent to present yourself approved to God, a worker who does not need to be ashamed, rightly dividing the Word of Truth.
  9. 2 Timothy 3:16 All ______is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be ______, thoroughly equipped for every ______work.
  1. SomeBible Passages onMarriage,Divorce,and Remarriage
  1. Genesis 2:23-25And Adam said: "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man." 24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become ______. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

  1. Autonomy as a family
  2. Joined as inseparable
  3. Divorce ~ ______
  4. Intimacy

  1. Proverb 21:9 (~25:24) Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
  1. It’s best to follow the golden rule
  2. If you have a contentiousSpouse, then YOU HAVE aContentious ______.
  3. You are not free to divorce.
  1. Malachi 2:13-17And this is the second thing you do: you cover the altar of the Lord with tears, with weeping and crying; so He does not regard the offering anymore, nor receive it with goodwill from your hands. 14 Yet you say, "For what reason?“ because the Lord has been witness between you and the wife of your youth, with whom you have dealt treacherously; yet she is your companion and your wife by covenant. 15 But did He not make them one, having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth. 16 "For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates ______, for it covers one's garment with violence,“ says the Lord of Hosts. "Therefore take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously." 17 You have wearied the Lord with your words; yet you say, "In what way have we wearied Him?“ In that you say, "Everyone who does evil is good in the sight of the Lord, and He delights in them,” Or, "Where is the God of justice?"

  1. God Hates Divorce.
  2. Does God Hate Remarriage?

  1. This Says Nothing of it
  1. Matthew 5:31-32"Furthermore it has been said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.' 32 But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality ______her to commit ______; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

  1. Divorce causes one to commit Adultery
  2. This is SINFUL
  3. Sin Costs one their SOUL
  4. Only ONE Exception

  1. Matthew 10:34-39"Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. 35 For I have come to 'set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law'; 36 and 'a man's enemies will be those of his own household.' 37 He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. 38 And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. 39 He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.

  1. You can have trouble in your household
  2. They’re still your ______

  1. There’s No Dumping Option
  2. Take up your cross

  1. Don’t go “______your life”

  1. Matthew 19:3-10The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?" 4 And He answered and said to them, "Have you not read that He Who made them at the Beginning 'made them male and female,' 5 and said, 'For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh'? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore ______." 7 They said to Him, "Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?" 8 He said to them, "Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the Beginning it was not so. 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery." 10 His disciples said to Him, "If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is better not to marry."
  1. Jesus ______Divorce
  2. Divorce sets you up for further sin (adultery)
  3. There’s only ______Exception
  1. Matthew 22:37-39Jesus said to him, "'You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.' 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like it: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.'
  1. ______Differences?
  2. If we follow the Golden Rule, there could be none!
  1. Mark 10:11-12So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."
  1. Divorce is already ______
  2. Remarriage is ______, too!
  3. (Women could divorce a tanner…by Jewish law)
  1. Luke 14:26"If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple.
  1. Hate = Love Less
  2. Not of Divorce, but ______
  3. We have to love Jesus enough to ______Him – NO DIVORCE
  1. Luke 16:18"Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced from her husband commits adultery.

  1. Matt 19:6, Divorce Forbidden
  2. Remarriage compounds Sin

  1. Divorcees + remarriage =not good!
  1. Luke 18:29-30So He said to them, "Assuredly, I say to you, there is no one who has left house or parents or brothers or wife or children, for the sake of the Kingdom of God, 30 who shall not receive many times more in this present time, and in the age to come Eternal Life."

  1. ______?
  2. Was this flippant?

  1. We Don’t know From this passage alone.
  1. Romans 7:1-4Or do you not know, brethren (for I speak to those who know the Law), that the Law has dominion over a man as long as he lives? 2 For the woman who has a husband is ______by the Law to her husband as long as he lives. But if the husband dies, she is released from the Law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband lives, she ______another man, she will be called an______; but if her husband dies, she is free from that Law, so that she is no adulteress, though she has married another man. 4 Therefore, my brethren, you also have become dead to the Law through the body of Christ, that you may be married to another — to Him Who was raised from the dead, that we should bear fruit to God.

  1. Marriage means we’re ______
  2. Death releases that bond
  3. Remarriage does ____ release the bond
  4. Adultery = Marriage to one but Bound to Another

  1. I Corinthians 7:1-16 (½) Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have ______over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not ______one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment. 7 For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But each one has his own gift from God, one in this manner and another in that. 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

  1. You Both have Obligations
  2. Remarriage does NOT release the bond
  3. We do not want to ______
  4. Divorce is usually ______
  5. Remarriage is usually ______

  1. I Corinthians 7:1-16 (2/2) 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to ______from her husband. 11 But ______, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to ______his wife. 12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. 16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?

  1. Do ______Divorce
  2. Do NOT ______
  3. Do NOT Divorce
  4. Do NOT Divorce

  1. If you Sin by Divorcing, here are your ______
  2. This says Nothing about the Freedom to Remarry,Except that thereis ______.
  1. I Corinthians 7:39A wife is ______by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, ______in the Lord.

  1. Marriage AND Binding
  2. Death dissolves both

  1. Do only Widows have the requirement to marry“only in the Lord”?
  1. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18Do not be ______together with ______. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement has the Temple of God with idols? For you are the Temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will dwell in them and walk among them. I will be their God, and they shall be My people." 17 Therefore "Come out from among them and ______, says the Lord. Do not touch what is unclean, and I will receive you." 18 'I will be a Father to you, and you shall be My sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty."
  1. Not exclusively of Marriage?
  2. Inescapably this addresses______
  3. Do only Widows have the requirement to marry“only in the Lord”?
  1. Ephesians 5:22-33______to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 ______, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the Word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh." 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

  1. Irreconcilable Differences?
  2. How Could This BE?

  1. Before there is friction,Someone is neglecting their God-Given ______.
  1. Ephesians 6:1-4Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 "Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise: 3 "that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth." 4 And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

  1. ______Parenting?
  2. Fathers must be There!

  1. Fathers have a God-Given Absolute Responsibility
  1. Hebrews 13:4Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but ______and ______God will judge.

  1. Marital Bliss for Married ONLY
  2. Fornicator – Not waiting for marriage

  1. Adulterer – Stepping Outside of the Marriage Bounds
  1. Synopsis:
  1. God Hates Divorce.
  2. What God has joined together let not man separate.
  3. Where there is Divorce there is SIN.
  4. Even when you’re divorced, you’re BOUND to your mate by God.
  5. Even when you’re remarried, you’re still BOUND to your mate by God.
  6. Being married to one person while bound to another is ADULTERY.
  7. One man with one woman for LIFE.
  8. The only reason God allows divorce under the New Testament is when your mate commits sexual immorality.
  9. ONLY when your mate committed adultery, and you divorce them for that reason, are you released to divorce your mate and marry another.

WHAT MUST I DO TO BE SAVED?

Hear The Gospel (John 5:24; Romans 10:17)Believe the Word of God (John 3:16-18; John 8:24)

Repent Of Your Sins (Luke 13:1-5; Acts 2:38)Confess Jesus as Christ (Matthew 10:32; Romans 10:10)

Be Baptized (Acts 22:16; Galatians 3:27)Remain Faithful for Life (John 8:31; Rev. 2:10)

FOR THE ERRING CHILD OF GOD:

Repent (Acts 8:22), Confess (I John 1:9), Pray (Acts 8:22)

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