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The Joy of Service

  1. How do you define service?
  2. Merriam-Webster defines it as:
  3. “the occupation or function of serving”
  4. “employment as a servant”
  5. “the work performed by one that serves”
  6. “help, use, benefit”
  7. “contribution to the welfare of others”
  8. “disposal for use”
  9. What is the difference between service and submission?
  10. According to Merriam-Webster:
  11. Submission

(1)“the conditions of being submissive, humble, or compliant”

(2)“an act of submitting to the authority or control of another”

  1. So who can be a service type?
  2. Bottoms
  3. Submissives
  4. Slaves
  1. What are some of the formal roles that service oriented s-type do?
  2. Butler
  3. In charge of household staff
  4. Greeting and care of household guests
  5. Organizing household budgets, inventory
  6. Prepare formal table settings, serve drinks, wait on table
  7. Assist in the organization of social events in the home
  8. Caretaker
  9. Takes care of property in absence of the owners
  10. Chauffer
  11. Companion
  12. Chef
  13. Couples
  14. Married submissive couple
  15. Footman/Underbutler
  16. Responsible for heavier housework
  17. Majordomo
  18. Overall management of household
  19. Oversee household budgets and finances
  20. Similar to butler but over several properties
  21. Nanny
  22. Split job between care of children and cleaning of house
  23. Personal Assistant
  24. Manage the home office
  25. All secretarial duties
  26. Appointment scheduling
  27. Manage accounts payable and expenses
  28. Arrange travel
  29. Oversee special projects
  30. Organize entertainment
  31. Valet
  32. Manservant to the gentlemen of the house
  33. What about the not so formal activities?
  34. Cleaning
  35. Laundry
  36. Cooking
  37. Shopping
  38. Errands
  39. Dry Cleaning
  40. Leather care
  41. Boot black
  42. Packing for a trip
  43. What is the one basic principle of service?
  44. Attentiveness
  45. Why?
  46. Learn things about the d-type
  47. Interact with the conversation going on
  48. Eagerly be of assistance when needed
  49. Desire to show that dominant’s needs come first
  50. What is a Bulter Book?
  51. Book on the preferences, sizes, likes, dislikes, allergies of the d-type
  52. May have a “book” for each d- or s-type your d-type knows
  53. What are the benefits to keeping butler books?
  54. Helps you to review and study the d-type
  55. Lets you know of any special considerations for guests.
  56. Anticipation vs. Presumption
  57. What is the difference
  58. Anticipation – doing something that is desired by the d-type
  59. Presumption – doing something simply for the inflation of the s-type
  60. How do you care and feed the service oriented s-type?
  61. Praise the good, discuss the bad?
  62. Set them up for success?
  63. Praise lightly and justly?
  64. Praise lavishly?
  65. Ignore the good, correct the bad?
  66. What motivates a service oriented s-type?
  67. Knowing they did a difficult task well
  68. Being appreciated
  69. Being valued
  70. Knowing the d-type well enough to do without being told

Resources:

“Service with a Smile,” by wildfleurs,

“Being a Service Submissive,” by sens,

“Domestic Staff – Positions and Descriptions,” by wildfleurs,

Sharpening your Entertainment Service Skills,” by wildfleurs,

“Tips on Providing More Effective Service,” by wildfleurs,

“Sweet Services for Submissives,” by Dr. Gloria Brame,

“Care and Feeding of Service Submissives,” by Lilith,

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