Form A Questionnaire
Please note: It is imperative that you give thorough, detailed answers. Pay special attention to those questions which ask you to describe, give examples or explain. You know the story of your life and your relationships better than anyone – share that information with the Tribunal. It is better to give the Tribunal too much information than too little.
What is your present religion?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /What is your present occupation?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /Why are you petitioning for a declaration of invalidity at the present time?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /YOUR PERSONAL AND FAMILY BACKGROUND
1.Where did you grow up?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /2.What were your childhood and teenage years like? (Here describe, for example, what it was like to grow up in your family; how you got along with your siblings; your relationship with your parents; what kinds of activities you were involved in; any difficulties you had at school, home or in the larger community, etc.).
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /3.What was your family’s religion? How did they live it out?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /4.What was your parents’ marriage (or marriages) like? If you grew up in a single-parent family, what was that like?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /5.Describe any problems in your family growing up (for example: chronic illness, death of a child, divorce, physical/sexual abuse, drug/alcohol abuse, parental fighting, money problems).
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /How were these problems resolved?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /6.Growing up, who among your family, friends or friends’ parents had been divorced?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /7.Growing up what did YOU think about divorce?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /8.Did YOU have any serious problems while growing up? What were they?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /How were they handled?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /9.How would your high school friends have described you?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /10.At what age did you start dating? Why did you start at that age?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /11.Describe your dating experiences and any serious relationships (including any prior marriages) which happened before your relationship with your former spouse (the respondent in this case). Be sure to write any/every marriages PRIOR to your relationship with the respondent.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /YOUR FORMER SPOUSE’S PERSONAL AND FAMILY BACKGROUND
12.Where did your former spouse grow up?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /13.What do you know about your former spouse’s childhood and teenage years? (Here describe, for example, what it was like for your former spouse to grow up in his/her family; how he/she got along with his/her siblings; his/her relationships with parents; what kinds of activities he/she was involved in; any difficulties he/she had at school, home or in the larger community, etc.)
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /14.What religion was your former spouse’s family? How did they live it out?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /15.What was your former spouse’s parents’ marriage like? (If your former spouse grew up in a single-parent family, what was that like?)
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /16.Describe any problems in your former spouse’s family while he/she was growing up. (For example, chronic illness; death of a child; divorce; physical/sexual, drug/alcohol abuse; parental fighting; money problems.)
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /How were these problems resolved?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /17.Growing up, who among YOUR FORMER SPOUSE’S family, friends or friends’ parents had
been divorced?
18.Growing up what did YOUR FORMER SPOUSE think about divorce?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /19.Did YOUR FORMER SPOUSE have any serious problems while growing up? What were they?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /How were they handled?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /20.How would your former spouse’s high school and college friends have described him/her (if you know)?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /21.Describe what you know about your former spouse’s dating experiences and any seriousrelationships (including any marriages) which happened before your former spouse began to date you.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /COURTSHIP
22.When and how did you and your former spouse meet?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /23.Tell us the story of your dating relationship with your former spouse.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /24.How long did you and your former spouse date before becoming engaged?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /How long was the engagement?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /25.Did YOU have any problems at the time you dated your former spouse with: (Check all that apply.)
☐a. Alcohol / ☐e. Physical abuse / ☐i. Money problems☐b. Drugs / ☐f. Homosexual feelings / ☐j. Problems with the law
☐c. Verbal Abuse / ☐g. Gambling / ☐k. Problems with seeingother people (cheating)
☐d. Problems keeping
commitments in general / ☐h. Mental health
problem
Please describe in detail each item you’ve checked above.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /26.Did YOUR FORMER SPOUSE have any problems at the time the two of you dated with:
Check all that apply.)
☐b. Drugs / ☐f. Homosexual feelings / ☐j. Problems with the law
☐c. Verbal Abuse / ☐g. Gambling / ☐k. Problems with seeing other people (cheating)
☐d. Problems keeping commitments in general / ☐h. Mental health problem
Please describe in detail each item you’ve checked above.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /27.What attracted you to your former spouse?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /28.What attracted your former spouse to you?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /29.What did YOU dislike about your former spouse during the courtship?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /30.What did YOUR FORMER SPOUSE dislike about you during the courtship?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /31.Please describe the communication between the two of you while dating. Give examples.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /32.What was your relationship like while you were dating?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /33.What caused arguments or conflicts while you were dating?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /Explain in detail how these wereresolved?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /34.Were there any breakups? Yes: ☐ No: ☐
a. If so, how many? Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer.
b. What caused them?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /c. What made you get back together?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /35.Did you have a sexual relationship while dating your former spouse?
Yes: ☐ No: ☐
a. If you did, how did that decision come about?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /b. How did each of you feel about having a sexual relationship before marriage?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /36.What effect did the sexual relationship have on the decision to marry?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /37.Were the two of you expecting a baby at the time you married?
Yes: ☐ No: ☐
a. If yes, how did that affect the decision to get married?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /b. How did both of your families react to the news of the pregnancy
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /38.What else was going on in your lives around the time you decided to marry (for example, graduation; a new job; illness of a family member, etc.)
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /39.Did you see anything else in your dating relationship with your former spouse that concerned you?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /40.How did the decision to marry come about?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /41.In what ways was your former spouse “The One?”
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /42.Why did you decide to marry this person rather than someone else?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /43.What did your family think about your former spouse as a prospective in-law?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /44.What did your former spouse’s family think about YOU as a prospective in-law?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /45.What did your friends think about your former spouse as a mate for you?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /46.What did your former spouse’s friends think about YOU as a mate for him/her?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /47.Did anyone tell you not to marry your former spouse?
Yes: ☐ No: ☐
What were their concerns?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /48.Did the two of you have any sort of premarital preparation through your church, or any sort of pre-marital counseling
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /49.Did you have a “prenuptial agreement” that was binding in law? If so, for what reason?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /MARITAL ISSUES (Please address each of these issues)
50.While dating or engaged, what discussions did you and your former spouse have about:
a. Sex: Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer.b. Infidelity in marriage: Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer.
c. Work: Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer.
d. Money: Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer.
e. In-laws: Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer.
f. Children: Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer.
g. Religion: Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer.
51.Describe any kind of pressure from any source to get married.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /52.Describe any doubts or hesitations you had about marrying your former spouse.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /53.Describe any doubts or hesitations your former spouse had about marrying you.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /54.While you were dating and/or engaged, what did YOU think were good reasons for divorce?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /55.While you were dating and/or engaged, what did YOUR FORMER SPOUSE think were good reasons for divorce?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /56.While you were dating and/or engaged, did you think if you divorced it would give you the right to remarry?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /57.While you were dating and/or engaged, did your former spouse think if he/she divorced it would give him/her the right to remarry?
Yes: ☐ No: ☐
How do you know this?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /58.While you were dating and/or engaged, what concerns did you have about YOUR ability or willingness to be absolutely faithful in this marriage?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /59.While you were dating and/or engaged, what concerns did you have about your former spouse’s ability to be absolutely faithful in this marriage.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /60.While you were dating and/or engaged, what decisions did YOU make individually about having children?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /61.While you were dating and/or engaged, what decisions did YOUR FORMER SPOUSE make about having children?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /62.While you were dating and/or engaged, what decisions did YOU AS A COUPLE make about having children?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /63.Who else did you tell about this decision?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /64.While you were dating and/or engaged, did you have any concerns about your former spouse’s ability and willingness to enter a loving marriage that would last a lifetime?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /65.While you were dating and/or engaged, did you have any concerns about YOUR ability and willingness to enter a loving marriage that would last a lifetime?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /66.Did you have any reasons other than love (such as trying to leave home; need for financial stability; being forced by parents or a pregnancy; etc.) for wanting to marry your former spouse?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /67.Did your former spouse have any reasons other than love for wanting to marry you?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /68.Looking back, describe any “red flags” you see NOW that should have warned you not to marry your former spouse.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /THE WEDDING AND HONEYMOON
69.Describe any serious “cold feet” you or your former spouse experienced before the wedding.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /70.Describe any unusual behavior on the part of you or your former spouse shortly before the wedding or at the wedding.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /71.Describe anything your former spouse did or said around the time of the wedding that shocked or surprised you.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /72.What was the honeymoon like? Please describe both the good experiences and any problems the two of you encountered.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /THE MARRIAGE
73.How was the marriage during the first year?
a. What were the problems?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /b. When did the problems start?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /c. Were these problems ones that had come up during the courtship?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /74.If problems started AFTER the first year, when did they start?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /75. During the marriage, did either you or your former spouse do anything to prevent the conception of children? Yes: ☐ No: ☐ If yes:
a. What was done to prevent conception?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /b. Did both of you agree to this?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /c. When did preventing conception begin?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /d. When did preventing conception end?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /e. Was there ever a time that one of you wanted to have children and the other refused?
Yes: ☐ No: ☐
f. If yes, how was this resolved?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /76.Please select any problems YOU had DURING THE MARRIAGE with the following:
☐ a. Drugs or alcohol / ☐g. In-laws☐ b. Gambling / ☐h. Religious practices
☐ c. Physical, verbal or any other abuse
towards your spouse or your children / ☐ i. Staying faithful
☐d. Money (overspending or not spending
enough to care for the family) / ☐ j. Children – having or not having;
discipline, etc
☐ e. Sex / ☐ k. Work
☐ f. Homosexual feelings / ☐ l. Too many outside activities (hobbies,
clubs, service organizations, church)
Please explain in detail each selected item. Identify each item by its letter, a, b, c…
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /77.Please select any problems YOUR FORMER SPOUSE had during the marriage with the following:
☐ a. Drugs or alcohol / ☐g. In-laws☐ b. Gambling / ☐h. Religious practices
☐ c. Physical, verbal or any other abuse
towards your spouse or your children / ☐ i. Staying faithful
☐d. Money (overspending or not spending
enough to care for the family) / ☐ j. Children – having or not having;
discipline, etc
☐ e. Sex / ☐ k. Work
☐ f. Homosexual feelings / ☐ l. Too many outside activities (hobbies,
clubs, service organizations, church)
Please explain in detail each selected item. Identify each item by its letter, a, b, c…
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /78.When did talk of “divorce” first come up?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /a. Who brought it up?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /b. In what context?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /79.Explain any attempts to heal your marriage (for example, counseling or marriage workshops such as “Retrouvaille”).
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /Describe any insights the counselor was able to offer the two of you, or any insights you gained from the workshop.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /Did the two of you try to carry out the counselor’s/workshop’s recommendations?
☐Yes ☐No Please explain.
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /What was the result?
Click or Tap to Enter Your Answer. /80.If you didn’t go to counseling or any sort of workshop, what was the reason