PROGRAM 05 LISTENING
1. / English2. / Program 5: Learning to listen well
3. / A1 Opening Music
4. / Host: Are you a good listener? If someone is in pain would he or she come to you?
Today, we learn how to be a friend that helps someone else heal.
5. / Opening music for 5-10 seconds
6. / A2 Host Introduction
7. / Host: Welcome to our Trauma Healing program and thank you for joining me; my name is ______. The Trauma Healing program is a production of ______.
Today we look at the topic of listening. A good listener can open the door to real healing.
8. / Music
9. / Host: James Chapter 1, verse 19 in the Bible says that we should be quick to listen and slow to speak. Today, your storyteller ______shares a story about how a good listener opens the door to real healing.
10. / A3 Current life drama
11. / Opening Music
12. / Storyteller: Simon and Rose and their four children lived north of Bingola, in a village built in a beautiful valley surrounded by hills. That year the abundant rains promised a good harvest, but the rains did not stop.
Add sound of rain..
The rain flooded the fields and destroyed all the crops.
13. / Music
14. / Storyteller: One rainy morning, Simon and Rose woke up as usual to prepare the children for school.
15. / SFX: shuffling of feet and the sound of rain falling
16. / Rose: Martha, where is your jacket? It’s very cold and it’s still raining. Joshua, wear your boots! And Paul, remember to carry a handkerchief, you are getting a cold.
17. / Children: Yes, mama!
18. / Simon: Children, say goodbye to your mother and baby Lydia.
19. / Children: Bye mama! Bye Lydia!
20. / SFX: Footsteps, door opening and people getting out…. Baby gurgle and cooing
21. / Rose: Be a good baby while I wash the dishes.
22. / SFX: Loud roaring sound.
23. / Rose: What is that?
24. / SFX: Loud roaring sound gets louder.
25. / Rose: Oh God, help us! Oh no! It’s a mudslide! I need to get to safety, my baby, my children! Oh God, have mercy!
26. / SFX: More roaring noises
27. / Storyteller: Rose ran outside and watched the mudslide swallow up the village. With no time to spare, she grabbed her baby and ran as the mud cover up her house completely. Simon who had just dropped off the children at school ran back to the school.
28. / SFX: running footsteps men shouting…. Screams and cries
29. / Simon: The school is completely covered in mud! We need to dig the children out!
30. / SFX: digging, crying shouting and children screams…
31. / Storyteller: The men pulled children from the rubble, but only a few survived.
32. / SFX: mournful dirge
33. / Sad music
34. / Storyteller: The mudslide killed half the villagers, including Simon and Rose’s three oldest children. Simon and Rose were so shocked, they could hardly talk. They used the last of their energy to find food.
35. / Sad music
36. / Storyteller: NGOs rushed to help survivors find shelter, and after a long month the villagers rebuilt their houses in a safer place farther from the mountains. But neither Simon nor Sarah talked to anyone about the sadness and shock they felt.
37. / Sad music
38. / Storyteller: Pastor Daniel and his wife Sarah returned from a trip on the day of the mudslide. Overwhelmed by the disaster, they counseled and prayed with the survivors.
39. / Music
40. / Storyteller: One day, Sarah, visited Rose.
41. / Sarah: Rose, I know you are troubled. But tell me, what exactly happened on that day?
42. / Rose: Oh, Sister Sarah, It was the worst day in my life. …. (Crying in a timid voice). I was with baby Lydia in the house when I heard the roar from the mudslide. I grabbed the baby and ran towards the school to try to rescue my children. But (crying) …it was completely covered in mud! Men were trying to dig the children out, but most were dead, completely covered in mud. (crying) My three children among the dead!
43. / Sarah: Oh Rose, how hard that must have been. Tell me, how did you feel?
44. / Rose: I felt so helpless and scared. I was in panic calling my children’s and my husband’s names, praying frantically. It was terrible! (Crying)
45. / Sarah (gently): Rose, my sister, what was the hardest part for you?
46. / Rose: The hardest thing for me is that they have never been able to find the bodies of our children! ((Crying desperately) I never found my babies! …. (More crying
47. / Sarah: I know it’s difficult to talk about this, Rose. Thank you for telling me.
48. / Rose: Thank you for listening, Sister Sarah. Thank you.
49. / Sarah: You are quite welcome, my dear. I’ll come again next week and we can talk some more. Until then I will be praying for you.
50. / SFX: Sarah walks away foots gently hitting the ground
51. / Storyteller: After telling her story, Rose felt tired but also relieved. In fact, that night she slept better than she had since the tragedy.
52. / Music –Lesson 5 song, 10 seconds
53. / A4 Host Introduce First Discussion
54. / Host: That is the story of Rose and Sarah. Do you think that Sarah, the Pastors Wife listened well? What did she do to allow Rose to tell her story without judgement? Listen to Jacques, Steven, Magdalene and Rebecca as they discuss the story.
55. / Music- Connect to Nature
56. / A5 First Discussion
57. / James: Hmm. What a difficult story to listen to. Was that story hard for all of you?
58. / Rebecca: Yes, it’s horrible to think of a whole village covered by a mudslide. Even if some of them did survive it’s – yeah, just so sad.
59. / Magdalene: I particularly hated the idea of a whole generation of children being lost there.
60. / James: Yes, and some of them lost more than one child, like Rose. Let’s turn to the Sarah just for a moment. What questions did she ask Rose when she came visiting?
61. / Rebecca: The first question that Sarah asked Rose was, “What exactly happened?”
62. / Stephen: Yeah and then she asked, “How did you feel?”
63. / Magdalene: and she finally asked her what was the hardest part for you?
64. / James: Those three questions. How do you think these three questions helped Rose?
65. / Magdalene: Well, they help her talk about the painful things in her heart.
66. / Rebecca: I tend to agree with Magdalene because at times it can be hard to just start talking about what you went through if you don’t have someone to guide you.
67. / James: It’s true, these questions can give you a way to help other people to get their pain out, to tell their story. Sometimes it’s the first time anyone has listened to it. They may need to tell it many, many times, so just ask what really happened.
68. / Rebecca: Yes. So that question isn’t hard..
69. / Magdalene: And then at some point, you don’t need to tell it anymore.
70. / James: Yes! The second question is “How did you feel?” It helps a person focus on their feelings and put those feelings into words.
71. / Rebecca: Yeah, sometimes when I go through trouble, I don’t even know what I feel; it’s like a big, black cloud. To put it into words would help!
72. / James: Then the last question, “What was the most difficult part?” helps a person describe what is hurting most. You can never guess what that might be.
73. / Group: True!
74. / James: Now let’s practice listening. Anyone here willing to describe a situation that hurt you?
75. / Magdalene: Yes, I will. I wanted to have a baby, but it never happened. But my friends would try to console me by saying things like: we know you feel ashamed, or we know you worry about who will take care of you when you’re old . . . That didn’t help!
76. / Stephen: Your friends should have asked those three questions if they wanted to be helpful!
77. / Magdalene: Oh yes, it would have allowed me to share my real feelings, instead of making me feel ashamed and sadder about my pain.
78. / Rebecca: So let me ask, what was the hardest part for you?
79. / Magdalene: For me the hardest part is that I love being with children, so my heart and my home feel empty.
80. / James: Thanks for sharing it with us. How did you feel when Rebecca listened?
81. / Magdalene: You know, I feel a bit better now.
82. / James: These questions in mind can help us to listen and not preach. So let me ask this: what kind of people would you share your pain with?
83. / Magdalene: For me, James, it has to be someone who wouldn’t tell the whole world what I said to them.
84. / Rebecca: I will only share with someone who knows how to listen.
85. / Magdalene: Yes, I have to feel safe with the person.
86. / James: Now, imagine you’ve gone to a doctor and even before you tell the doctor your problem he’s already prescribing medicine for you. What would you think about that?
87. / Rebecca: I would find a different doctor!
88. / Stephen: Yeah, that’s not a good doctor.
89. / Magdalene: - and his medicine probably will not work.
90. / James: That is the same thing with heart wounds. Some people just want to give advice and tell hurting people what to do.
91. / Rebecca: Those 3 questions would help!
92. / James: Yes, and then listen as the person shares their pain!
93. / Music Transition: Connect with Nature
94. / Host: If you have spent time with a suffering friend, you know how hard it is to remain with her without trying to give answers. But know that your presence is important, as people do not want to suffer silently, especially if your friend must rebuild life piece by piece.
95. / A6 Host Call to Action
96. / Music- Lesson 5 -10 secon
97. / Host: But how about you? Do you have a pain in your heart? Do you need someone to talk to or someone to pray with you? You can call or SMS us at ___; start your SMS with the word Trauma and send it to ___. You can also send us an email at ___.
98. / Vocals of Lesson 5 song here for about 5-10 seconds.
99. / B1 Host intro to biblical drama
100. / Music. Fade out Lesson 5 song here.
101. / Host: It is wonderful to have friends who know how to listen, especially when tragedy strikes. But one man in the Bible did not have friends like that. Actually, his friends were more like enemies! Listen to the story of Job and his... (hmhm) friends . .
102. / B2 Biblical Drama
103. / Music
104. / Storyteller: There was a man whose name was Job. He was the richest man in his region, and he had a big family. He was a good man who respected God and refused to do evil. One day Satan was with God, and God asked him:
105. / Music. Fade out Velvet Africa and Fade in: Horn of Africa start at :27 seconds
106. / God: Did you notice my servant Job? There is no one on earth as faithful and good as he is.
107. / Satan: Eh! Why shouldn’t he respect you? You make him successful in whatever he does. Just try taking away everything he owns and he will curse you to your face.
108. / God: All right, do what you want with anything that belongs to him, but don’t harm Job himself.
109. / Music: Keep Horn of Africa
110. / Storyteller: Soon after that, some messengers came to Job.
Fade out Horn of Africa.
111. / SFX: Running to Job.
112. / Music. Job’s Frantic Messenger’s Music: Monkoto
113. / Messenger 1: Enemies have attacked and stolen your oxen and donkeys and have killed your servants.
114. / Messenger 2: (overlapping with first) God sent down a fire that killed your sheep and your servants.
115. / Messenger 3: (overlapping with second) Enemies stole your camels and killed your servants.
116. / Messenger 4: (overlapping with third) Your children were having a party and a storm came and blew the house down. It crushed all of your children.
117. / Music. Fade out Monkoto
118. / Add time passing music: Indonesian Shore
119. / Storyteller: After hearing all this, Job tore his clothes and shaved his head. He knelt on the ground and worshiped God.
120. / Job: We bring nothing at birth; we take nothing with us at death. The Lord alone gives and takes. Praise the name of the LORD!
121. / Music. Fade Out Indonesian Shore
122. / Music. ADD God talking to Satan Music:
Zebra
123. / Storyteller: A little while later, God asked Satan:
124. / God: What do you think of Job Now
125. / Satan: Strike Job’s own body with pain, and he will curse you.
126. / God: All right! Make Job suffer as much as you want, but just don’t kill him.
127. / Music. Zebra Out:
128. / Storyteller: Then Satan made sores break out all over Job’s body. (SFX: wailing) Job took a piece of broken pottery to scrape his sores as he sat by the garbage dump. Then his wife said to him,
129. / Wife: Why don’t you curse God and die?
130. / Job: Don’t talk like a fool! If we accept blessings from God, we must accept trouble as well.
131. / Music. Few seconds of Job being faithful music: Sadness and Pain you might need to loop it.
132. / Storyteller: In all that happened, Job never once said anything against God. Soon after, three of his friends came to comfort him. At first, they cried and wailed. Then they sat with him for seven days in silence. Finally Job broke the silence and cursed the day he was born. Then his friends began to talk.