Carson Talley
HE3 5th Hour
October 16, 2013
Open Adoption
Motherhood is arguably one of the most exciting experiences for any woman. However, it goes without saying that it comes with numerous obligations and responsibilities especially for the mother. In some cases, the mothers are unprepared for these obligations in which case they opt for adoption. It is noteworthy that the practice comes with various implications for all the parties involved. part of the following should be a new paragraph as part of a reasonI have had a close encounter with a close family friend. She gave up her child forclosed adoptionand has been dealing with consequences for the rest of her life. Every time her son even crosses her mind, which of course is every day, I can always tell that the guilt is weighing down on her. However, I realize that it would be worse than this if she had kept her child at the time she did, keeping him unable to live his life to its full potential within a family that can meet all aspects of his needs. Completely open adoptions provide families a way in which they can work together to do what is best for them, but more importantly what is best for the child. briefly state why
Open adoption refers to the sharing of the information and contacts between the adoptive and biological parents of an adopted child. This can take place before or after the placement of a child, and can even continue on throughout a child’s life. Open adoption is completely different to the more common traditional adoption, where birthparents often do not know the identity of the adoptive parents and cannot maintain any contact with the adopted child or their adoptive parents after placement. UnitlUntil recently, adopted children had no way of finding their biological parents after they reached the age of 18. Today, adoption professionals are generally supportive of giving adoptees access to records holding details of their genealogical and biological past as well as information necessary to pursue reunion with their biological parents if they have left their contact information available.
It is always imperative that the rights and safety of the child in question is not jeopardized in any way. This comes as a tall order especially considering that adoption presents a number of challenges for the adopted baby, the birth parent, as well as the adopting parents. The birth parents have to battle down with grief and guilt of giving up their kid, as well as the constant fears as they wonder how the kid is being treated. The kid, on the other hand, may not have a sense of belonging especially after discovering that he or she is adopted. In addition, the adoptive parents may find it difficult to answer tough questions from the child especially pertaining to his identity and origin. This underlines the importance of devising an arrangement that would settle all these things. The arrangement should consider the child’s rights to make certain decisions. Protecting the rights of adopted children is extremely important because if all adoptions are going to be open, there needs to be a way that ensures that neither party tries to take too much control.
Professionals have recently learned that confidential adoptions contribute to greater identity confusion for adoptees in adolescence. In addition, adoptees are also reported to be high users of mental health services for emotional disturbance and identity problems. Adoption experts assume that altered birth certificates and sealed adoption records contributes to curiosity and confusion of an adoptees past. This can also contribute to a negative image of the adopted child’s birthparent, and is directly linked to a negative personal identity. All adoptions should be open because in most cases, open adoptions assist children with finding their identity later in life.
Some people object to open adoption and claim that traditional closed adoption should be the only method. They back this up by saying that it is harder for a birthmother to accept placement if they see their child regularly. However, this is not true because birthparents are able to see the child being well cared for and loved in the adoptive home, and they are reassured that the child has the kind of life they wanted for him or her. Had they not been able to see their child, it would only increase their fear that the child was not being cared for. Many people also worry that within an open adoption, birth parents are able to walk into a child new life whenever they want. This is in no way true because Adoptive parents and birthparents create an open adoption agreement, an individualized plan that outlines in advance the number of ongoing visits, and the exchange of letters and photos. Some people also think that closed adoptions are better because the birthparents will try to undermine my relationship with my child. But in all reality, an open adoption is actually better because the birthparents' role is to support the adoptive parents as the child's parents. The birthparents do not compete with the adoptive parents. Healthy open adoption relationships feature reasonable and mutually respected boundaries.
All adoptions should be open adoptions because it will teach all parties to communicate and work well with each other in order to properly benefit the adopted child. Not only will it benefit the way the child is able to live their daily lives, but it will ensure the mental stability and comfort of the birthmother, as well as providing the perfect level of trust between the adoptee and the adoptive mother.
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