The Marriage Expectation Inventory

The Marriage Expectation Inventory

Directions: Set aside one hour and separate yourself from your future spouse so you cannot see what he or she is writing. Thoughtfully fill in your form as honestly as possible. When ready, come back together to share you answers. After you have finished you may find it of interest to discuss your answers at length with your future partner. This can help you prepare a future together.

1. Love is usually having to say:______

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2. Since we first met, the following changes have taken place in our relationship: ______

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3. Describe several instances when your future partner demonstrated real love toward you during the last month. ______

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4. Describe several situations in which you, intentionally or unintentionally were hurtful to your future partner in the last month.

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5. Give the ways you and your future spouse differ: ______

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6. Give the ways you and your future spouse are alike: ______

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7. Describe some specific things your future partner has “bugged” you about recently which you could have corrected but didn’t. ______

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8. What are the strengths you will bring to your marriage? ______

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9. What are the strengths your future partner will bring to the marriage? ______

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10. How will you use your strong points to grow together in love after marriage? ______

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11. Describe one thing your future partner does which makes it difficult to share yourself with them. ______

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12. Describe how you plan to make important decisions in your marriage: ______

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13. In our marriage, communication will be so important that: ______

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14. As far as communication in our future marriage, one partner______

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15. One aspect of our relationship that I have been reluctant to discuss with my future partner, but wish to now is: ______

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16. My idea of freedom in marriage is: ______

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17. Freedom to: ______implies a corresponding obligation to: ______

18. Describe several ways you’ve learned to balance personal freedom with responsibility to your future partner. ______

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19. The most difficult area for me to allow my future partner freedom in is: ______

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20. Some areas where I feel a lack of freedom with my future partner are: ______

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21. Describe how financial decisions will be made in your family: _____

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22. Major sources of conflict in our money matters are related to: ____

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23. I feel ______about a working wife.

24. Selfishness to me is ______

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25. Selfishness in my relationship has been: ______

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26. Religious belief and practice in our marriage will mean. ______

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27. Describe several religious attitudes you like about your future partner. ______

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28. Describe several religious attitudes you dislike about your future partner. ______

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29. I feel religion in the home is ______

30. In a happy family, children should be: ______

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31. List the changes you plan to make from your parents’ child rearing practices. ______

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