Life’s Mate Check List
by Mark Hendrickson
Ask yourself about these areas of your prospective mate
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Character
Track record of development
Speech habits
Conduct habits
Integrity
Loyalty
Family
Spiritual Condition
Family life style
Pedigree / heritage
Stability in family members
Do you have favor with them
Parents / mentors - yours & (his or hers)Do you have their permission
What are their sentiments
Is accountability in place
Established “Guard-rails”
Personal spiritual heart condition
Is she / he “On fire”
Engaged / Active in God
Life’s callings / Destiny
What are his / her callings
Are their destiny/callings obvious
Are they compatible with yours
Incidentals / prompters from people
Dreams from other people
Has it “popped up” in conversations
One-on-one interaction
Warm
Comfortable / easy
Does it feel right
Is there “chemistry”
Feelings / Affections
What does your heart say
What does your head say
Is lust a motivating factor
Does it just “feel right”
Is there peace Isa 30:18
God’s will – ultimate priority
What is He saying
Have you had any prophetic dreams
Prophetic words over you
Do you have 2 or 3 confirmations?
From people who don’t know you
Personality
Are they ‘hot’ and high maintenance
Easy going / teachable
Laid back / too compliant / boring
Is their personality compatible with yours
Can he / she communicate
Too much / too little
About things that matter
Length of time
How long have you know him / her
How long on your heart
General wisdom issues
Is he / she in God’s schooling process
Are they complying with God’s strategy
His / Her preparedness for marriage
Are circumstances in place for marriage
Job / Schooling
Income / Financial planning
Housing
Physical appearance
Does he / she look good to you
What will he / she look like in the future
Family features / familial traits & genes
Size / shape / weight / health
Pre-marriage discussion topics
There are four areas in which you and your fiancé should be in agreement before you walk down the aisle. These are religion, children, parents, and money. Studies show that couples who agree on these issues prior to marriage have a much better chance of experiencing a successful marriage and spending long, happy lives together. Unity creates romance, whether you're talking about holding hands or handling money. And it's not just about coming to an agreement, either. It's about sharing your innermost thoughts, goals, and dreams, and mapping out a life together that will make you both happy!
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