All Students Come to School with Unmet Needs. Most Have the Ability to Delay These Needs

"All students come to school with unmet needs. Most have the ability to delay these needs. Troubled children focus on nothing else until those needs are met. Meet the needs early or consume your time fighting them. The choice is yours, not theirs." L. Tobin

"Treat people as if they are what they ought to be and you help them to become what they are capable of being." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

"Children who are happy see other children as possible friends. Children who are hurting see other children as competition for scarce resources." unknown

"Respect for others means accepting their thoughts and feelings as valid." Becky Bailey

"Your ability to accurately perceive a child’s inner needs is the source for the most effective interventions available to you." Unknown

"A general rule is that the more adults try to control the child, the more the child feels powerless and tries to control the adult." Dan Hodgins

"’Attention seeking behaviors’ is an unfortunate phrase. It sounds so devious. Children who seek attention are children who need attention. The behavior may be ignored, but not the need." Unknown

"Successful children learn to have power over themselves and accept the needs of others." CLDSPT 1999

"How unfair it seems that troubled children, who have such difficult, overwhelming lives, must bear the additional burden of knowing that they are seen as someone else’s daily problem." Unknown

"In the face of misbehavior, my job is to create change in order to effect a change. I may change the structure of the classroom, the method of instruction, the peer interaction, my actions or thought or expectations, or I may simply command change in the actions of the child. Of these, the last is the least effective." Unknown

"Many people believe that by getting children to feel bad, they will act good." Becky Bailey