MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT:
1 Peter 3:1-7
As you may already know, marriage can be really tough! But a marriage that is focused on making decisions that will give God the most glory will be able to handle the pressures of daily living! To that end in 1 Peter we are faced with a series of commands that call for daily commitment to a biblical marriage. Thus, this assessment may be helpful to you as you regularly examine your marriage in view of God’s word.
Directions: Critically & reflectively ask the following questions, then answering them appropriately & thoughtfully (avoiding both self-congratulation and excessive self-criticism). Be sure to carefully study 1 Peter 3:1-7 before you answer these questions. These questions were originally adapted from a handout by Dr. Roy B. Zuck.
Key:
1 = never/no/not
2 = seldom/rarely
3 = occasionally/sometimes
4 = usually/often
5 = consistently/regularly
QUESTIONS FOR WIVES:
1. _____. Am I being submissive to my husband even if he does not always treat me the way I would like or appreciate?
In what specific ways can I show this attitude and disposition of submission?
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2. _____. Am I conducting myself in our marriage in a manner that is pleasing to Jesus Christ?
In what specific ways can I carry out this kind of conduct?
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3. _____. Am I being pure and faithful to my husband?
In what specific ways can I show faithfulness and purity to him?
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4. _____. Am I respecting my husband out of regard for his position as the head of our family?
In what specific ways can I show him respect?
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5. ______. Am I stressing my inner beauty more than outward appearance?
In what specific ways can I develop the beauty of my inner spiritual life?
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6. ______. Am I being gentle (non-hostile)?
In what specific ways can I develop and show gentleness to my husband?
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7. ______. Am I being “quiet” in the sense of not being unruly or boisterous?
In what specific ways can I develop and show a “quiet” or unruly spirit?
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8. ______. Am I seeking to do what is right and good even when it is difficult?
In what specific ways can I do this?
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9. ______. Am I not giving into fear in my relationship to my husband?
In what ways can I keep from experiencing fear?
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QUESTIONS FOR HUSBANDS:
1. ______. Am I seeking to be more aware of my wife’s temperament, moods, and needs?
In what specific ways can I develop and show this awareness?
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2. ______. Am I being sensitive to her feelings and ideas?
In what specific ways can I develop and show this sensitivity?
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3. ______. Am I recognizing her feminine nature as a person more emotionally fragile than I am?
In what specific ways can I develop and show this attitude toward her.
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4. ______. Am I giving her honor and respect rather than belittling her or yelling at her?
In what specific ways can I show her I consider her my spiritual equal?
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5. ______. Am I remembering that though she is different from me, she is equal to me as an heir of God’s grace?
In what specific ways can I treat her properly?
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ADDITIONAL CONSIDERATIONS, NOTES, AND OBSERVATIONS:
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“So whether we are at home or away, we make it our aim to please Him. 10 For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil. 11 Therefore, knowing, the fear of the Lord, we persuade others. But what we are is known to God, and I hope it is known also to your conscience.”
~ 2 Corinthians 5:9-11
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