RelateBradford

ProvidersofspecialistrelationshipsupportinBradford forover65years

Contents

Ourservices...... 3

RelationshipCounselling...... 4

FamilyandYoungPeoplesCounselling...... 5

SexTherapy...... 6

CoupleTherapyforDepression...... 7

CaringandSharing...... 8

Talkdon’twalk...... 9

Yourquestionsanswered...... 10

TheCostofCounselling...... 13

Whatourclientssay...... 14

Contactus...... 17

Directions...... 18

Ourservices…

RelationshipCounselling

Counsellingforcouplesandindividualsexperiencingpastorpresentrelationshipproblemswiththeirpartner,ex-partner,familymembers,friendsorcolleagues

FamilyandYoungPeoplesCounselling

Familymemberscanattendtogetherorindividuallytoexplorepastorpresentproblemswithinthefamily.Youngpeopleaged10-18candiscussanyproblemsthatareimpactingthememotionally

SexTherapy

Helpforpeopleexperiencingsexualdifficultiessuchaslossofdesire,erectiledysfunction,prematureejaculationandpainonintercourse

CoupleTherapyforDepression

Aservicetosupportcoupleswhereoneorbothmembersareexperiencingsymptomsofdepression

CaringandSharing

Acounsellingserviceforcarersaged50+tohelpcarersmanagetheemotionalimpactofcaring

Talkdon’twalk

Counsellingandgroupsupportforpeopleaffectedbyprostatecancer,theirpartnersandfamilymembers

RelationshipCounselling

Personalrelationshipsbringupallsortsofchallenges,sometimesthesechallengescanbecomeproblemsandthingslikeworkworriesandfamilypressuresdon'thelp.Itcanbehardtofocusonthegoodbitsinyourrelationshiptohelpyouthroughthebadpatches,butRelatecanhelp.Relateisallaboutrelationships.Ifyouwanttotalkaboutyourrelationships

WhenwouldyoucometoRelate?

Wehelppeoplewhohavecomeacrossissuesintheirpersonal

relationshipsandwanthelptosortthingsout.

Arguing

Anaffair

Lossofinterestinsex

TakingeachotherforgrantedProblemscommunicatingFindingtimeforeachother

Theimpactoflifeevents,such

asunemployment,bereavementdisability

Therearemanyreasonswhypeoplecometousandwehelpthemmoveforward.

past,presentorfuture,how

yourfamilyisaffectedbyyourrelationship,howyoucanimproveyourrelationship,howyoucanmanageaseparationconstructively,howyoucangetoverabreakup,Relateisheretohelpyou.Relatecounsellorsseeover100,000peopleayear.Theirroleistolisten,toencourageyoutotalkopenlyaboutyourconcerns,andhelpyoureachyourowndecisionsaboutthebestwayforward.

90%ofthepeoplewhocometo

Relatearegladthattheydidandfindthatithelpsthem

Whathappensduringcounselling?

Firstly,youwillmeetwitha

counsellorwhowillexplorewithyouwhatyouwanttoachieveorchangeinyourrelationship.WhereRelatecanhelp,youwillhaveregularsessionswithacounsellorduringwhichyou'lltalkaboutwhatisaffectingyourrelationshipandagreethebestwayforward.

FamilyYoungPeoplesCounselling

Isitforyou?

Everyonehasfamilyargumentsatsometime.Usuallythesejust

blowoverbutsometimesthey

justgetworse.ThisiswhenaRelateFamilyandYoung

People'sCounsellorcanhelpyouworkthingsoutinawaythat'sbestforeveryone.Bigchangesinafamilycancause

stressforeveryone,longrunningdisputescancausepaintothewholefamily,andtheproblemsonepersonmight

begoingthroughcanaffecttheirrelationshipswithothers.

RelateFamilyCounsellingisfor?YoungPeople

ParentsandChildrenSiblings

BlendedFamiliesExtendedFamilies

HowcanRelateFamily

YoungPeople'sCounsellingHelp?

Allfamiliesareuniqueandhaveuniqueproblems,but

ourcounsellorsareexperiencedrelationshipexpertsandarespeciallytrainedtoworkwithfamilies

tohelppeopleresolvetheirproblems.

Whatwillhappen?RelateCounsellorsdon'ttakesidesandwon'ttellyouwhattodo.Theywillhelpyoulookintoyourfamilyrelationshipsandworkwithyoutomoveawayfromtheproblems.BeforebeginningRelateCounselling,youwillhaveanassessment.Followingthatyousetappointmentswiththecounsellor,sothateveryonewhoneedsto,canattendthecounsellormightsuggestthatfamilymemberssometimescomealoneorinsmallergroupsorbringotherrelativestosomesessions.Youngpeoplecancometocounsellingsessionsontheirown.

SexTherapy

Anactivesexlifeisanenjoyableandimportantelementofahealthyrelationship.However,mostpeopleencountersexualproblemsatsomepointintheirlives.

Therearelotsofphysicalandemotionalreasonswhythis

canhappen,forexample

stress,tiredness,illness,familyandworkpressures,

evenanewbaby.

Alotofpeoplefindthesesexualproblemsdon'tlastlong.Whereaproblemdoes

last,Relatecanhelp.

93%ofthepeopleweseetellusthatwehelpthemmaketheirsexualrelationshipssignificantlybetter.

WhencanRelatehelp?

Relatecanhelpwherepeoplearehavingproblemswiththeirsexlifeduetophysicaloremotionalreasons.Relatesextherapistsseelotsofpeoplewithsexualdifficultieslike:

LossofdesireErectiledysfunctionPrematureejaculationPainonintercourse

Whathappensduringsextherapy?

Firstlyyouwillmeetwitha

sextherapist.Thetherapistwilltaketimetoexplorewithyouwhatyouwanttoachieveorchangeinyoursexualrelationshipandwhatthereasonsbehindthismightbe.Thetherapistwilltalkwithyouabout

thebestwayforwardinyourcircumstances.WhereRelatecanhelp,youwillhaveregularsessionswithyoursextherapist

duringwhichyou'llbegivenaprogrammeofexercisestodoathomeanddiscussyourprogress(youwillneverbeaskedtoundertakeanysexualtasksduringasession).

CoupleTherapyForDepression

Peoplewhoaredepressedoftenfindtheirrelationshipssufferandsometimesproblemswithourrelationshipscanleadtooneorotherpartnerbecomingdepressedoranxious.

Depressioncanaffectpeopleinlotsofdifferentways.Typicalsymptomsare:

Lossofinterestandenjoymentin

ordinarythings

Feelingtired,tearfulandirritableWantingtobealone

LossofinterestinsexNotbeingabletosleep

Lossofappetite

Notbeingabletoconcentrate

Thesesymptomsoftencomewithfeelingsofguilt,worthlessnessandlowself-esteem,alongwithlossofconfidenceandfeelingsofhelplessness.Itisestimatedthatabout2.6%ofadultsinthe

U.K.sufferfromdepressionand11.4%sufferfromamixtureof

anxietyanddepression.

Coupletherapyfordepressionaimstohelpcouplesunderstandthewaysinwhichdifficultiesintheirrelationshipcancontributetodepressioninone(orsometimesboth)partners.Oftencouplesfindithardtotalkopenlyandhonestlywitheachother.Meetingwithacoupletherapistcanopenthewaytobettercommunication,andthisseemstobeakeypartofimprovingrelationships.

Howdoesitwork?CoupleTherapyhasbeenusedasatreatmentforanxietyanddepressionformanyyears.Itaimstoimproverelationshipsbyhelpingcouplestoidentifyandthenworktogetheronthethingsthatcreateunhappiness,helpingbothyouandyourpartnermoveonfromstuckandevenhostilepatternsofrelating.Thisshouldleadtoahappierandmorefulfillingrelationshipandrelievedepression.Thispositivecycleleadstoimprovemoodandemotionalwellbeing.

Whatwillhappen?Coupletherapywillhelpyouandyourpartnerexploreandunderstandmoreaboutyourdifficulties,workingtogetherwithatherapist,youwillopenuptheissuesthatseemtotroublingyouandyourpartner

CaringandSharing

Whatiscaringandsharing?

Thecaringandsharingserviceisforclientsovertheageof50whocareforalovedone,itofferscarersasafeplacetotalktoatrainedcounsellorabouthowthingsareforthemandtoexploreandconcernstheymayhaveinconfidence.

Acarerissomeonewhospendsasignificantproportionoftheirtimeprovidingunpaidsupporttoafamilymember,partnerorfriend.

Whetheryouarecaringforsomeonewho

-isconfusedorhasdementia

-isill

-isfrail

-isdisabled

-hasamentalhealthproblem

-orhasasubstancemisuseproblem

Itisreallyimportanttocontinue

tolookafteryourselfaswell.

Howcantalkinghelp?

Talkingcanhelpyouto:

-Explorehowyouarereallyfeelingaboutthingsandwhat

optionsyouhave

-Keepyourselfwell,whichwillimprovethequalityofthetimeyouspendwithyour

lovedone

-managedifficultfeelingsthatyoumaybeexperiencingsuchasguilt,anxiety,anger,resentmentorhelplessness

-gainextrasupportoutsideyournetworkoffriendsandfamily

-buildyourconfidencetoenableyoutomeetyourownneeds

-planforthefuture

Somethingspeoplehaveusedourservicehavesaid?

“Counsellinghasliftedmefromaverylonelyandexhaustedstateandgivenmeapathtorecovery.Inowhavethetoolstopreventmefromburningoutagain.Ihaveaplanformyfuturelifeatworkandhome”

“….CounsellinghashelpedimprovemyrelationshipwithmyMum(whoIcarefor)andthishashelpedimproveherbehaviourtowardsme”

Talkdon’twalk

RelateBradfordcanofferyoufreesupportifyourrelationshiporsexlifehasbeenaffectedbyprostatecancer.

IntheUK,about1in8menwillgetprostatecanceratsomepointintheirlives.Oldermen,menwithafamilyhistoryofprostatecancerandBlackmenaremoreatrisk.

Wecanseeyoualone,orwecanseeyouandyourpartnertogether,tolookattheimpactthatprostatecancerhashadonyourrelationshipand/orsexlifeandsupportyoutoregainintimacy.

Manypeoplefindtalkingtoarelationshipprofessionalcanhelpexploretheirfeelingsarounddifficultsubjects.Itcanprovideyouwiththetimeandspacetodiscussdifficulttopicswithaspecialistwhowillsupportyou.

Commonlydiscussedtopicsinclude:

  • beingabletoopenuptoyourpartner
  • sexualissues
  • intimacy
  • howyoushowaffection
  • hopesandfears

Yourquestionsanswered…

WhatisRelate?

Relateisaregisteredcharitywithover75years’experienceinhelpingpeoplewiththeirrelationships.OurcounsellortrainingisoftheveryhighestqualityandourpracticeconformstothecodeofethicsandpracticerecommendedbytheBritishAssociationforCounsellingandPsychotherapy(BACP).RelateBradfordispartofanationalfederationofRelateCentresandprovidesarangeofRelateservicesfromitsmainofficeinBradford.

WhodoesRelateHelp?

Relatehelpspeoplewhoareworriedabouttheirrelationshipandwanttodosomethingaboutit.Youdon’thavetobemarriedorco-habitingtotakeadvantageofourserviceandyoudon’tnecessarilyhavetocomeasacouple.Infact,it’smuchbetterforyoutocomebyyourselfthantohavenohelpatall.Thebesttimetocometousisbeforethingshavereachedacrisispoint,butwhateverstageyourrelationshiphasreached,ourcounsellorswillgenerallybeabletohelpyou.Indeed,evenwhenthingshavebrokendowncompletely,Relatecounsellingcanhelpyoucometotermswithwhathashappenedandsupportyouthroughthepainfulprocessofseparation.

WhatisCounselling?

Relatecounsellingisaprocessduringwhichyouandyourcounsellorworktogethertoexploreandgainanunderstandingofhowthedifficultiesinyourrelationshiparose.Onceyouhavegainedthisgreaterunderstanding,itisthenpossibleforyoutodecidewhatchangesyouwanttomakeandhowtoachievethem.

Putsimply,thecounsellingroomisasafe,quietplacewhereyoucancalmlysetabouttountangleconfusion,restorecommunicationandexploreoptionsforchange.Counsellingisalsoaprivateandconfidentialformofhelp.ThismeansthatwewillnotgiveyournameoranyotherinformationaboutyoutoanyoneoutsideRelateunlesswebelievethatsomeone’spersonalsafetyisatrisk.

“Relatehelps130,000peopleeachyearintheirpersonalrelationships”

YourAssessmentInterview

Generally,wewillbeabletoofferyouafirstappointmentwithafullytrainedandexperiencedcounsellorshortlyafterwehavereceivedyourRegistrationFee.Thisappointment,whichwecallanAssessmentInterview’,lastsforaboutanhouranditspurposeistwofold:firstly,itallowsyoutolearnalittlebitmoreaboutRelate;andsecondly,itenablesourcounsellorto

hearaboutthedifficultiesyouareexperiencingandtodecidewhetherRelatecounsellingwouldbeanappropriateformofhelp.Ifwedecidewearenottherightagencyforyou,wewillalwaystrytosuggestausefulalternative.

Whatweexpectfromyou

Oncecounsellingbeginsweaskthatyoukeepyourappointments.Ifyoudohavetocancel,weaskyougiveusasmuchnoticeaspossible(twoworkingdays),sowecanoffertheappointmenttosomeoneelse.

Howlongwillittake?

Relatedealswitheveryclient'ssituationindividuallyandthelengthoftimetherapytakesdependsonyourcircumstances.Sessionsareusuallyweeklyorfortnightly(butcanbelonger)andtherapistsalwaysworkatyourpace,nottoatimetable,soyouwillneverfeelrushedorobligedtocomebackunnecessarily.

Ifyouhaveaquestionthatwehavenotansweredhere,thenpleasecontactusandwewillbepleasedtohelp.Youcanfindourcontactdetailsoverleaf.

TheCostofCounselling…

WedonotaskclientswholiveintheBradfordDistrictandwhoattendaBradfordGPsurgerytocontributepaymenttowardsessionsforanyofthefollowingservices:

  • CaringandSharing
  • ProstateCancer–emotional/relationship/psychosexualsupport
  • Youngperson’scounselling
  • IAPTCoupleTherapyForDepression
  • Referralsreceivedfromastatutoryorganisation

(e.g.GP,Socialworker)forRelationshipCounsellingorSexTherapy

Otherserviceshavesubsidiesavailable.

Pleasecontactusforfurtherinformationorquestionsyouhaveregardingthecostofcounselling.

Whatourclientshavetosay…

“Meandmywifesufferedforyearsnotgettingthepropersupportfromtherightpeople.Afterourfirstsessionwithourcounsellorweknewwewereintherightplace.Thehelp,confidenceandsupportwegainedthroughoutourtimeherewasabsolutelypriceless!Ithadamassiveimpactonourlives,generallymakingushappierandabletocommunicatemuchbetterwitheachothertogettheresultsthatwewanted”

“Thecounsellinghelpedmetodealwithpainfulmemoriesbetterandtobeabletocontrolmyemotions.IhavelearnedsometechniquestohelpmyselfwhenIfeeloverwhelmed.AlsoIgainedmoreunderstandingabouthowmypastaffectedmyoverallresponses.Andmainly,Iamslowlyregainingabilitytotrustmyownjudgementonceagainandnotfeelguiltwhenitdoesnotbelongtome”

“Ithashelpedmymarriagesurvive,Inolongeramscaredtohavesex!Andactuallyenjoyit.Ithasalsohelpedmetotalkmoreopenlywithmyhusband.WhichIstruggledwith”

“Abletoholdmoreopenandhonest

conversations,takenthe‘heat’outofcertainsituations”

“IfeelempoweredtohandletheproblemthatIoriginallycametoRelatewith.Inowhavetheskillstoovercomethesituationandpreventtheproblemfromexisting,andmeandmyhusbandaremuchhappierinourrelationship.I’mconfidentthatweareleavingRelatewithabrightfutureaheadofus,andwecouldn’thavedoneitwithoutthegenuinecareandsupportwe’vereceivedfromourcounselloroverthepastyear.We’resadthatwewillnolongerbehavingourfortnightlymeetingasithasbecomepartofournormalroutineandthesessionshavebeengreat,however,wefeelwearereadytodothisonourownnow.Wefeelluckytohavebeeninthecareofrelate,wehavealwaysfeltwelcome,comfortableandneverembarrassed.ThanksRelateandanextraspecialthankstoourcounsellor”

“Thesessionshavebeenhugelyhelpfulformeinmyrelationshipwithmymum.IfeellikeIhavebeenfreetosayexactlyhowIfeelandmyfeelingshavebeenacknowledgedandIammuchhappier.”

“I’mnotalone.Otherpeoplehavebeeninthesameposition.”

“Iamalothappier,moreconfidentandhavemoreself-belief.Iamawareofhowtocopewithdifficultsituations.Counsellinghasallowedmetotalkmoreopenlyaboutmynegativefeelingandaddressthemratherthanignorethem.Iunderstandwherethefeelingsoriginatedfrom.Intermsofwork,alotmoreconfidentatputtingmyselfforward.Ihaveabetterunderstandingofmyrelationshipwithmyson.Ihavebeenabletogetanswerstomyquestions.”

“Ifeelbetterknowingthatmychildrenareabletocopeanddealwithdifficultsituations.”

“Thankyouforhelpingusfindthe‘we’andthe‘us’ inourrelationshipagain.NeverthoughtI’dbeinthissituationinthefirstplaceandwhilstinit,neverthoughtwewouldbeout.We’vedoneit,withyourguidance”

“I’venothadcounsellingbefore,butcamewithanopenmind.Ifounditchallenging,andcompletelyworthwhile.Excellent,reallygladIdidit”

Contactus…

Tofindoutmoreinformationortomakeanappointment….

RelateBradford,Firstfloor,

BradfordTridentBusinessCentre,11EdwardStreet,

BradfordBD47BH

Telephone–01274726096

Fax–01274729844

Email–

Website–

Officeopeninghoursare:Mon–Thurs9am–9pmFriday9am–3pm.

Directions…..

WalkingfromBradfordTownHall(CentenarySquare)

WalktowardsBradfordinterchangeandtakethetunneltotheleftofthemainentrance.Atthetopofthetunnelwalkoverthecrossingstraightahead,andthenheadrightuntilyougettoacrossingthattakesyouacrossCroftStreet.TurnbackonyourselftowardsthebridgeandyouwillseeEdwardStreet.TurnleftdownthisroadandonyourleftisabuildingwithBradfordTridentBusinessCentreonthefarside.Wearesituatedinsidethisbuildingonthe1stfloor.

DirectionsfromtheM606:

Takethe3rdexitfromthetopoftheM606ontoMayo

Avenue/A6177(pastMorrisons)

TurnrightontoManchesterRoadA641andcontinuefor1.3miles

beforeturningleftatthetrafficlightsontoSeniorWay.

FollowtheroadaroundtotherightontoCroftStreetandgothroughthetrafficlights.YouwillpasstheSantanderofficesonyourleft.TaketherighthandlaneandturnRightontoEdwardStreetbeforethenextsetoftrafficlights.RelateisinthefirstbuildingonthisStreet.

DirectionsfromThornburyRoundabout(LeedsRoad)

Taketheexit‘LeedsRoad’fromtheroundabout(McDonaldstotherighthandside).Followfor1.7milesuntilturningleftontoShipleyAiredaleRoad/A650,followtotheleftontoCroftStreet,continuethroughthetrafficlightsandtakethefirstleftontoEdwardStreet.RelateisinthefirstbuildingonthisStreet.

DirectionsfromShipley

HeadsouthwestonBriggate/B6149takethefirstleftontoValleyRoadA6037andtakeaslightleftontoCanalRoad/A6037.ContinueontoShipleyAiredaleRd/A650andtakeaslightleftaroundontoCroftStreet.Afterthetrafficlights,takethefirstleftontoEdwardStreet.RelateisinthefirstbuildingonthisStreet.

DirectionsfromThorntonRoad(CemeteryRoadcrossroads)

HeadNorthEastonThorntonRoad/B6145towardAllertonRoadfor

0.9miles.ShortlyafterMercedesBenzontherighttakealeftturnontoCityRoadandcontinueontoSunbridgeRoad.

TurnrightontoGodwinStreet/A6181,attheroundabout,takethe

2ndexitontoManchesterRd/A641andturnleftontoCroftSt.FollowpasttheSantanderbuildingontheleftandtakealeftturnontoEdwardStreetbeforethetrafficnights.RelateisinthefirstbuildingonthisStreet.