Appendix D
Appendix D
Proposing Toasts
Proposing a toast to a person or a couple or a group is a relatively simple task. The purpose of a 'formal toast' is to publicly express esteem or affection. To do the task effectively, use the Four-Step Formula.
1.Ho-HumMake a brief statement of what you are about to do. "Friends, I feel honoured to have been asked to propose a toast to Jim."
2.PointTell your audience why this individual or group has earned your respect and affection. As a rule, it is not appropriate to provide an in-depth description of the person or group. Limit your comments to a few highlights. Tell the audience why you think that person or group is special.
3.ExamplePersonalize your remarks. "What I like about Jim is ..." This will make your toast memorable and special. Be sensitive to the person's feelings. Be discreet. Do not embarrass anyone. Use humour if you are naturally funny. Do not mistake smut for wit. Above all, speak from the heart. If you cannot do so, decline the invitation to propose the toast.
4.So-What(official part of the toast) "So friends, please rise. Join me now in drinking to the good health of our honoured guest, Jim (pause) "To Jim" (as you raise your glass).
Example of a Toast
Ho-Hum:Ladies and gentlemen. I am very happy to propose a toast to Janet.
Point:What I like about Janet is her unusual dedication to her work. It seems to me that no matter what Janet does, she always gives 100%. I think that she does this consistently because she cares a lot. I also appreciate her wit and good humour. Most of us here tonight have been cheered by Janet's positive attitude towards people and life.
Example:I have watched people brighten up when Janet is around. Only last week, at lunchtime, a colleague said to me, "Let's wait for Janet. She always has a good story that's worth a few laughs. I need that just now." Thank you Janet for brightening our lives.
So-What:So please stand. (pause) Let's drink to Janet's health and happiness. To Janet. (as you raise your glass)
Reply to a Toast
Usually, a reply to a toast is appropriate. Again, this is a simple matter. Say a sincere thank you for the remarks and good wishes expressed. If possible, refer to a key point made by the person who proposed the toast.
Example of a Reply to a Toast
Thank you very much Margaret for your kind words and good wishes. Thank you, friends, for coming here today. I really appreciate your many expressions of caring and affection.
I was surprised and pleased when Margaret thanked me for my jokes and my tendency to "carry-on." This is something in me that has blossomed in the last five years. Before that, I was not sure enough of myself to let go. All of you have encouraged me. Your laughter has brought out a part of me that I really value.
So thank you for that incentive, and thank you for honouring me in this way today.
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