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Messianic Jewish Wedding
Shabbat Services and Teaching
From: Ephesians 5:28-33
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Messiah and the Synagogue of Believers (Church).
Beth Chaim encourages Jewish people to come to faith in their Messiah as Jews and to keep their identity as Jews. As importantly, we share with the Synagogue of Believers (Church body) the fullness of God’s blessings upon all Born Again Believers as equal heirs to the Covenants of Israel through faith in the Jewish Messiah. Our Messianic Jewish Wedding Service will delight you with its traditional beauty and messianic significance.
Baruch Haba Bashem Adonai
Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.
Teaching Program on the Messianic Wedding
The basic parts of the Jewish Messianic Wedding include:
Today’s Cast
Host Teacher and Rabbi:
Ceremonial Rabbi:
Rabbi Worship
Groom:
Bride:
Family/Guests and Readers
Reception
Shofar and Prayer Rabbi Host Leader
The Wedding Day
The Groom is called Chatan and
The Bride is called Kallah
Reader Two: to Groom
Genesis 2:15-18
The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die.” The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Reader Two: to Bride
Genesis 2:23-24
The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
Today we come together to bring together a man and women, (Jim and Bride) into marriage renewal as though they were first getting married.
We prayer our time together will enrich the relationship of our guests with better knowledge of the God of Israel, our Jewish Messiah and our Ruach HaKodesh, Holy Spirit. If any have not married their Jewish Messiah, may today’s wedding service, teachings an ceremony guide you to seek the Groom who brings permanent forgiveness of sins and desires you to be his Spiritual Bride for Eternity in the Glory of God.
May each of our guest live in Holier and more loving relationships with their spouse, friends, co-workers, and community because of the lessons learned here today and the very presence of God.
The day of great joy is considered to be Yom Kippur or Day of Atonement for the bride and groom. The Jewish people recognize that the greatest joy of a marriage ceremony is related to our greatest joy of God’s forgiveness of our sins through the atonement he gave Israel on the Day of Atonement each year.
The dawning wedding day heralds the happiest and holiest day of one's life. This day is considered a personal Yom Kippur for the chatan and kallah, for on this day all their past mistakes are (traditionally considered) forgiven as they merge into a new, complete soul. May all be married to Messiah and have there sins forgiven for all times.
Reader Three:
Leviticus 16:29-30 “This is to be a lasting ordinance for you: On the tenth day of the seventh month you must deny yourselves and not do any work—whether native-born or an alien living among you— because on this day atonement will be made for you, to cleanse you. Then, before the Lord, you will be clean from all your sins.
Reader Two:
Acts 2:38-39 Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Yeshua Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. The promise is for you and your children and for all who are far off—for all whom the Lord our God will call.”
Richard:
Matthew 27:50-51 And when Yeshua had cried out again in a loud voice, he gave up his spirit. At that moment the curtain of the temple was torn in two from top to bottom. The earth shook and the rocks split.
The curtain of the Temple was the curtain separating the Holy of Holies in two opening a path through faith in Messiah for each believer to enter God’s presence always and not just the High Priest of Israel once per year on Yom Kippur.
A marriage should be an open relationship where bride and groom can share all their life together without fear of condemnation. Unfortunately, our sins often cause us to pull a curtain between ourselves and spouse, between God and ourselves. We should remember to keep these pathways of the soul between men and women and between God and ourselves open Through confession n and forgiveness we become free from condemnation because our hearts are cleansed completely by our Spiritual Grooms blood that he gave for us on the Cross.
Reader Four:
Colossians 1:19-20 For God was pleased to have all his fullness dwell in him, and through him to reconcile to himself all things, whether things on earth or things in heaven, by making peace through his blood, shed on the cross.
Through marriage the bride can come into the groom’s marriage bed in purity. In the same way, Believers can now come into the very throne room of God in purity. The annual system of sacrifice is no longer available to our Jewish people since the destruction of Herod’s Temple in 70 A.D. How interesting and prophetic that this happened in the time-frame just as Messiah’s death, resurrection and ascension to heaven In fact, as we each marry Messiah by faith in his atoning sacrifice which brings us permanent forgiveness of sins we are in an eternal wedding day and marriage of purity.
Reader Four:
Ephesians 5:31-32 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ (Messiah) and the church (Synagogue of Believers).
But just as Israel needed to be cleansed year after year through the sacrifices of animals, we know that the marriage day forgiveness of sins can be short lived as people continue to sin and need cleansing again. Over 50% of marriages in the US from Secular, Jewish and Christian-Messianic families end broken by divorce. In the scriptures we learn that God gave Israel a certificate of divorce as Moses required for men to divorce women. The Mosaic convent marriages was conditional on the Israelites living by God’s commandments and having a heart for God.
This is why God offered Israel a New Covenant where the atonement of sins would not be for a day but for eternity. This covenant was based on what God would do only when the gift was accepted by Israel and the Gentiles by faith.
Reader One: x
Jeremiah 2:1-3The word of the Lord came to me: “Go and proclaim in the hearing of Jerusalem: “‘I remember the devotion of your youth, how as a bride you loved me and followed me through the desert, through a land not sown. Israel was holy to the Lord, the firstfruits of his harvest; all who devoured her were held guilty, and disaster overtook them,’” declares the Lord.
Jeremiah 3:8 I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries.
Jeremiah 31:33 “This is the covenant I will make with the house of Israel after that time,” declares the Lord. “I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people.
We will see that traditional Jewish-Messianic Wedding is a type for the marriage of each Believer, Jew or Gentile, (the Bride the Church), to the Jewish Messiah our Groom, for permanent atonement of their sins. Through the marriage to God’s Son and Messiah by Faith, God also brings Jew and Gentile back to his household as one Spirit-filled family.
The marriage also represents the unity or Echad that the couple should have with each other and God. They should submit to each other as if they are on body.
Reader Two:
Ephesians 5:28-33
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Messiah does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Messiah and the church..
Ephesians 3:6
This mystery is that through the gospel the Gentiles are heirs together with Israel, members together of one body, and sharers together in the promise in Messiah Yeshua. (Yeshua HaMashiac
.. Ephesians 3:10 His intent was that now, through the church, the manifold wisdom of God should be made known…
Wearing White/Kittel
Many have a custom of wearing white clothing on Yom Kippur and for Weddings and Passover in emulation of the ministering angels. Some people wear a kittel, a white robe worn over the clothing, because it reminds us of Messiah’s shroud which he folded neatly and laid in the tomb after his resurrection and of the ministering angels and witnesses of God’s glory. The white garment is in effect a type for God’s Shekinah glory. We are reminded that Believers will be made sin free and also join Messiah for eternity. The wedding day is considered a day of Yom Kippur and the Kittel and white garments represents the forgiveness of sins the bride and groom will receive on this day.
Rabbi Host Leader:
John 20:3-9So Peter and the other disciple started for the tomb. Both were running, but the other disciple outran Peter and reached the tomb first. He bent over and looked in at the strips of linen lying there but did not go in. Then Simon Peter, who was behind him, arrived and went into the tomb. He saw the strips of linen lying there, as well as the burial cloth that had been around Jesus’ head. The cloth was folded up by itself, separate from the linen. Finally the other disciple, who had reached the tomb first, also went inside. He saw and believed. (They still did not understand from Scripture that Jesus had to rise from the dead.)
Revelation 7:13-17 Then one of the elders asked me, “These in white robes—who are they, and where did they come from?” I answered, “Sir, you know.” And he said, “These are they who have come out of the great tribulation; they have washed their robes and made them white in the blood of the Lamb. Therefore, “they are before the throne of God and serve him day and night in his temple; and he who sits on the throne will spread his tent over them. Never again will they hunger; never again will they thirst. The sun will not beat upon them, nor any scorching heat. For the Lamb at the center of the throne will be their shepherd; he will lead them to springs of living water. And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes.”
Opening Song and Dance: led by Worship Leader and Dancers
Betrothal (Kiddushin) Ceremony
Badeken the veiling of the Kallah (bride) by the Chatan (groom).
A sign that the groom knows his wife and that the wife is reserved for him. In faithfulness and humility Rebekah brought a veil to her face upon seeing Isaac for the first time. Jacob was fooled because Leah’s veil was already down before marriage. God knows each of his children and offers his Messiah as our groom for eternity with full knowledge of who we are. When married we are covered by the blood of Messiah and reserved only for God. When to veil is removed it is symbolic of new insight into God’s truth and freedom from sin.
Bride
Genesis 24:61-67 Then Rebekah and her maids got ready and mounted their camels and went back with the man. So the servant took Rebekah and left. Now Isaac had come from Beer Lahai Roi, for he was living in the Negev. He went out to the field one evening to meditate, and as he looked up, he saw camels approaching. Rebekah also looked up and saw Isaac. She got down from her came and asked the servant, “Who is that man in the field coming to meet us?”
“He is my master,” the servant answered. So she took her veil and covered herself.
Then the servant told Isaac all he had done. Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.
2 Corinthians 3:15-18 Even to this day when Moses is read, a veil covers their hearts. But whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.
Rabbi Host Leader
Prayer:
May the Lord Messiah take off our veil at our marriage to him by faith so we can see and delight in him clearly as he knows everything about us. Messiah has chosen us as his bride to be with him forever since before the beginning of time.
Chuppah: The wedding Canopy.
The word Chuppa means dwelling and symbolizes the Groom’s promised provision of a house for the wife to live. God was to be Israel’s provider and gave them the Land of Israel as a land flowing with milk and honey. God consummated his love for Israel under a cloud of fire on Mt.Sinai when he gave them the Ten Commandments.
Reader Two:
Exodus 3:8So I have come down to rescue them from the hand of the Egyptians and to bring them up out of that land into a good and spacious land, a land flowing with milk and honey—the home of the Canaanites, Hittites, Amorites, Perizzites, Hivites and Jebusites.
In the dessert after the exile from Egypt, the Israelites lived in Tabernacles and followed God by the movement of the Shekinah Glory in the form a of a cloud of fire.
Reader Two:
Exodus 19:17-19 Then Moses led the people out of the camp to meet with God, and they stood at the foot of the mountain. Mount Sinai was covered with smoke, because the Lord descended on it in fire. The smoke billowed up from it like smoke from a furnace, the whole mountain trembled violently, and the sound of the trumpet grew louder and louder. Then Moses spoke and the voice of God answered him.
When Yeshua left to ascend to the Father he said he went to build a place for us in his Father’s home.
When a Believer comes to the Jewish Messiah in faith they receive the promise of eternal life and a new glorified body. These promises will be fully realized later when the Messiah returns for his saints and the marriage is spiritually consumated. Now we live in the Tabernacle of the Holy Spirit which provides spiritual sustenance to Believers.
Reader One: x
John 14:1-4“Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God; trust also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going
A Jewish wedding is said to occur during the betrothal. The marriage ceremony happens afterward when the groom has prepared the house for the new family to live. When the groom returns the wedding party says “Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.”
The Israelites were married to God at Mt.Sinai before they entered the promised land. In the same light a Believer in Messiah is married upon their vow of faith in Messiah. Messiah has promised to return when the remnant Nation of Israel also declares, “Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.” Believers will be taken up before this time as the Bride of Messiah in what has been called the rapture. This is what Yichud in the wedding ceremony is about that we will discuss shortly. The Yichud happens before the wedding feast which represents the Wedding Feast of the second coming of Messiah and the Messianic Age.